Why I post pictures of myself....

Title 'Social cupid'...
You may be asking...'why do they post pictures of themselves in blog and other pages on here?'...

Why?...cause I want people to know upfront my physical features....

Why? Cause I want to know that the people who are chatting with me, accept me for who I am, and are not just chatting with me cause of 'who they think I might be'...

In other words...we tend to form images of who we think we're chatting with in our minds...if we like what someones saying...we form ideal images...if we disagree we tend to form negitave images.

There's nothing more disappointing than chatting with someone for weeks or months...connecting...getting along...and then one day they see how you really look...and suddenly abandon you or refuse to have dialogue with you anymore cause you don't look the way they thought you should have...( silly, I know, but that's what they do...people do it all the time)

Maybe in their minds they thought you were white, or black or indian or female or a husky male...or whatever...

It's painful to invest emotionally in someone just to have them abandon you when they see how you look cause they thought you looked a different way.
Very shallow I know...but that's what people do.
So, to avoid that...I've learned to just be upfront and let people see how I look, or can look...that way if they don't like how I look...they can ignore me from the beggining and there's no emotional investment on either side.

Our eyes often blind us, more than they help us to see...at least when it comes to feeling others...

I could fool a lot of people on here if I never posted photos...many would probably think I was some elderly scholar...
But in my mind I'm thinking...'ok..their only chatting with me cause they think I look like them...but if they really saw me...they might 'hate me'...

Ye...I know...looks and surface shouldn't matter....but human nature is what it is...I can't change it.

It's funny...I can get a long with anyone...until they see me...

I guess the bottom line is my photos are a way of screening out shallow people.

Those who see my photos and can continue to chat with me and not let it effect the legitamacy of what I say...are in my mind 'real people'...
And I only want 'real people' in my life..

And on another note...my photos show my 'real side'...the 'who I really am' side....the side I have to hide and have hidden most of my life...
My photos are a way of me shedding the chains and defining myself the way I want to...not how others choose to.

Sometimes other peoples definition of you can be quite scary and very limiting.

I was born to smile, to love myself and others...and that's how I want to be. That's the definition I want to walk in.

Anyways...I've said my peace...I just had to get that off my mind...

I've been reading the spiritual thread lately...there are some very knowledgable people there...I just read, but seldomn comment...anyhow..take care...