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Introducing Gay Trainees

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Blank_Look
, 01.18.2012 at 02.46 AM (1469 Views)
I've seen on here a few times people raise the question of whether or not to let their trainer know they are gay. Since this is my soapbox, here's my two cents.

Why? Why does that need to be discussed?

"Well they need to know...."
No they don't. What in the world makes you think they "need" or even want to know that?

If you seriously think your trainer needs to know what you like to do with your private parts then you misunderstand both of your purpose for being where you are.

Your trainer is there for one reason and one reason only, because they get paid extra to train you to drive and on company policy. They are not there to become your friend, confidant, counselor or whatever.

Likewise, you are there to learn to drive and about company policy; not to share intimate details of your life.

Along the way, as acquaintance grows, there may come a time or opportunity for such topic. But to begin a relationship with, "Hi, I'm Bob. It's not just a name, but my favorite activity" is no way to start off.

"Well I just feel I have to be honest."
Fantastic! Discuss honesty. Honesty means your not gonna be lying & ripping me off. It has nothing to do with polishing knobs or licking kitties. It's an irrelevant detail. If you start off making things weird or uncomfortable then that's exactly what you accomplish and you set yourself up. In time you will part ways. So while you're with your trainer just make it as pleasant for the both of you as possible. They probably don't want to hear about your bedtime stories any more than you want to hear theirs.

After you're gone, the private outings of yourself will be a story they will share with others. So keep it to yourself and keep it a professional relationship.

I'm me and I approve this message. And any time you see this topic arise, feel free to link this post.
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  1. Gilro70's Avatar
    Well said Blank....don't think I can add any thing to that...
  2. Red Hot Mess's Avatar
    So are you outting yourself Blank? Lol
    Updated 01.18.2012 at 04.43 PM by Red Hot Mess (fix auto correct)
  3. hrtbr8kr's Avatar
    good blog blank lol... need to know basis.... i DONT need to know! lol
  4. sbgogirl's Avatar
    If this blog was for me because of the post I put on here Monday night. If you read the blog I said the trainer was telling me about all the gay trainees she had trained in the past. No were in my blog did I say I outed myself to her. You are right I am there to learn and she is there to teach..If I out myself as being gay it may make things a little un-easy between us. I don't want or need that...I want to be trained to drive a truck...However if she comes out and ask I will tell...It aways amazes me how so straight ##### that knows nothing about being gay can tell everyone that is gay how to act. But this blog agrees with mine. My trainer does not need to know...but would I let some super homophone train me and run his or her mouth about gays with out me saying anything H E C K NO.
  5. Blank_Look's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Red Hot Mess
    So are you outting yourself Blank? Lol
    Ummm... no. I'll stay in my closet.
    Geez, you and your trick questions.
  6. Blank_Look's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by sbgogirl
    If this blog was for me because of the post I put on here Monday night. If you read the blog I said the trainer was telling me about all the gay trainees she had trained in the past. No were in my blog did I say I outed myself to her. You are right I am there to learn and she is there to teach..If I out myself as being gay it may make things a little un-easy between us. I don't want or need that...I want to be trained to drive a truck...However if she comes out and ask I will tell...It aways amazes me how so straight ##### that knows nothing about being gay can tell everyone that is gay how to act. But this blog agrees with mine. My trainer does not need to know...but would I let some super homophone train me and run his or her mouth about gays with out me saying anything H E C K NO.
    No, SB, don't take it personal or get defensive. This isn't aimed at anyone person. It's aimed at the question that seems to arise from time to time.

    When it is asked I can't help but ask myself, "Do they really think their trainer is thinking 'I wonder if my next trainee will be gay?'"

    Perhaps I'm wrong, but I would almost be willing to bet dollars to pesos that if a trainer asks there's one of two reasons: they think gays are interested in EVERYONE of the same gender and therefore the gay person would be fantasizing about them all the time OR they may be interested in you.

    *SHRUGS* meh
  7. Blank_Look's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by sbgogirl
    It aways amazes me how so straight ##### that knows nothing about being gay can tell everyone that is gay how to act.
    Straight people are jealous because gay people seem to have a super cool, secret club with fabulous shoes and hugs all 'round.
  8. Red Hot Mess's Avatar
    Well I foulest been a little more blunt and asked straight up. But you know that's not my style. Lol
  9. sbgogirl's Avatar
    Ok Blank look blog was not for me...More update on gay trainee....Trainer told me about gay trainees for the past again today. Also, told me she was thinking about changing sides. I just said, "hummm" and left it at that...It crossed my mind to say you know I am but I don't think we need to go there...I have only been with company a few days and outing one's self is not a good way to start a new job.
  10. sbgogirl's Avatar
    With trainer today and we had been talking about kids...She ask if I ever wanted kids and I said yes when I was in my 20's I wanted kids but I did not have any..Told her I was active in my nephews lives and that one nephew lived with me. She does not have kids either. She said it was a shame that women like us wanted kids and could not have them and other women had kids and gave them away. I said as far as I know I could have kids when I was younger I just never tried. She ask if I had ever been with a man. I said yes...Not a lye. I have been with a man it has just been 25 years. If she ever ask straigh out if I am a lesbian I will say yes but she did not ask today.
  11. Blank_Look's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by sbgogirl
    With trainer today and we had been talking about kids...She ask if I ever wanted kids and I said yes when I was in my 20's I wanted kids but I did not have any..Told her I was active in my nephews lives and that one nephew lived with me. She does not have kids either. She said it was a shame that women like us wanted kids and could not have them and other women had kids and gave them away. I said as far as I know I could have kids when I was younger I just never tried. She ask if I had ever been with a man. I said yes...Not a lye. I have been with a man it has just been 25 years. If she ever ask straigh out if I am a lesbian I will say yes but she did not ask today.
    Sounds kinda like a fishing expedition to me.
  12. sbgogirl's Avatar
    I am having fun not telling her...If she comes straight out and ask I will not lie...Today she told me some women date women. I said realllllyyyy.
  13. Blank_Look's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by sbgogirl
    I am having fun not telling her...If she comes straight out and ask I will not lie...Today she told me some women date women. I said realllllyyyy.
    LOL. Enjoy the ride.
  14. Gilro70's Avatar
    Sounds to me like the trainer isnt being very professional. And yeah blank it does sound like a fishing expedition......
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