Introducing Gay Trainees
by, 01.18.2012 at 02.46 AM (1469 Views)
I've seen on here a few times people raise the question of whether or not to let their trainer know they are gay. Since this is my soapbox, here's my two cents.
Why? Why does that need to be discussed?
"Well they need to know...."
No they don't. What in the world makes you think they "need" or even want to know that?
If you seriously think your trainer needs to know what you like to do with your private parts then you misunderstand both of your purpose for being where you are.
Your trainer is there for one reason and one reason only, because they get paid extra to train you to drive and on company policy. They are not there to become your friend, confidant, counselor or whatever.
Likewise, you are there to learn to drive and about company policy; not to share intimate details of your life.
Along the way, as acquaintance grows, there may come a time or opportunity for such topic. But to begin a relationship with, "Hi, I'm Bob. It's not just a name, but my favorite activity" is no way to start off.
"Well I just feel I have to be honest."
Fantastic! Discuss honesty. Honesty means your not gonna be lying & ripping me off. It has nothing to do with polishing knobs or licking kitties. It's an irrelevant detail. If you start off making things weird or uncomfortable then that's exactly what you accomplish and you set yourself up. In time you will part ways. So while you're with your trainer just make it as pleasant for the both of you as possible. They probably don't want to hear about your bedtime stories any more than you want to hear theirs.
After you're gone, the private outings of yourself will be a story they will share with others. So keep it to yourself and keep it a professional relationship.
I'm me and I approve this message. And any time you see this topic arise, feel free to link this post.