Rookie reaching out for help and wisdom...

I need some help understanding some facets of truck driving. I have been solo now since November 7, 2012. It seems that I have already drawn some negative attention from my employer due to my inability to get everything "picked and dropped" on time. I am driving as hard as I can to make my pick ups. However, I am simply not being allotted enough time to arrive for my picks and drops?
Case in point #1:
I made a drop in (Texas) that consisted of significant onsite delays in unloading. Subsequently, I was dispatched to another location in (Texas). The drive, according to any map (internet, gps or Truckers atlas) put the travel time at 4 hours and 50 minutes with no delays. At the time of my departure, the commute would make my arrival time 4:00 pm if no delays were encountered? Dispatch informs me that I must arrive by 3:30 pm. (I did manage to arrive at 4:25 pm with only a minor delay behind a permit/escort load on a two lane highway, Not my fault in my humble opinion).
Case in point #2:
With the load on my flatbed, I made my way to the delivery point. I followed the instructions provided me, to the construction site. I verified these travel instructions on 2 separate gps units, a truckers atlas, as well as a phone call to the receiving party where I received further defined arrival directions. Turns out the spoken directions were incorrect. The gps units and truckers atlas got me to the construction office with ample time (52 minutes) to spare, but not to the site where my load was to be received. The unload site was another 6 miles away with a top speed of 15 mph and multiple delays/stops due to construction equipment traffic. Not my fault in my humble opinion? So, another strike against me.
Case in point #3:
The aforementioned drop consisted of a 6 hour on site delay to be unloaded. I had already received a new dispatch for a follow up load that did not have any mention of a "pick up cut-off time"? I remained in constant contact with the dispatcher to inform them of my troubles with on site delays? Dispatch never once mentioned a "cut-off time" for the load that was to follow. Once finally unloaded, I was in severe need for fuel, so I proceeded to the "approved" fuel stop and began taking on fuel. This occurred at 2:45 pm. I received a text approximately 5 minutes later stating that I had to be at my next pick up by 3:00 pm. The next pick up was 45 minutes away. Even if there was no traffic, the commute would have taken a minimum of 30 minutes by four wheeler. Needless to say, I did not make it. I arrived at 3:45 pm and I was turned away by the security guard at the gate stating, go home, come back tomorrow. The security guard asked if I was aware of the cut-off time? I respectfully said no sir and I presented my dispatch form showing the security guard the dispatch information provided me (with no cut-off time information) and apologized, informing him that this was my first visit to this facility and I would try to do better. So, another strike against me.

My thoughts:
I am driving as hard as I can. However, I am trying to drive as safely as I can. I am at a loss on how to protect myself against this negative attention that I am beginning to receive? There are just, so many hours that I am able to operate before I fall over from exhaustion trying to drive and make these "picks and drops"?
I am finding myself unable to stop to eat or use the restroom? I have to run at a dead sprint to go take a bathroom break or I have to just pull over and go to the restroom as quickly as possible between the truck and the trailer, then start jamming gears again up the governed speed of 65 mph?
I am reaching out for advice and wisdom on how I can improve and how I can conduct myself professionally in resolving this matter. Please, please! do not construe my statements as "whining or complaining"? Even though I guess it really is just whining and complaining...?
I really want to improve, however, if this current environment is not conducive of allowing me to operate safely, then, I feel that I have another decision to make.
The only part of this job that is troublesome to me is, the arrivals? Everything else is manageable.
I am starting to think that I have stepped into something that I may never be able to fulfill. By the way, I do not work for some "evil" "mega carrier". I work for a small, private family run trucking operation. I have since started a little research on the company and discovered that they have a reputation for operating under "fatigue" as stated by the FMCSA on the "SAFER" web site. That discovery has helped to resolve a lot of confusion on my part, as to how the other drivers are making their "picks and drops" on time?
The sad thing for me in this matter is, I am making "great money"! The pay is far greater than any rookie I have heard of making when just starting out. However, I am nearly to the point that, I am willing to make less money in order to operate safely and protect my record? Whats even more sad? I have only been solo since November 7th and I am already in a negative spotlight.
I am really feeling very frustrated and not sure how to reconcile this with myself. I am very willing to accept responsibility for any deficiencies on my part. I really like the work! I really want to eventually find myself doing "heavy haul" work. However, if I am unable to get the much needed experience and make my employer happy? It may be a futile effort.
On another note, I prefer not to discuss openly, the name of the company that I work for, due to the fact that they are a "private, family run operation". If it is determined that action is in order by way of advice or suggestion? I prefer to do it professionally with the FMCSA. I do not want to use this forum to "berate" this company openly. I must protect my ability to find other work if this current employment "falls through". I am at the mercy of their "pen strokes"? If they choose to deliver "ugly" words about me... there is little that I can do to protect myself. I do not want this to be the "first and last stop" in my trucking career.
I really look forward to hearing some advice. Thanks in advance.

 

This is where it becomes "hairy"? There is a prominent communication barrier. The owners are of Hispanic heritage and speak broken English. I acquired this job through an english speaking friend who is married into the family. Most of my communications take place by way of translator. So, sitting down to "closed" door meeting comes with great difficulty. The friend who "got" me the job, is acting somewhat as an authority figure making gestures of displeasure in my performance. It is noteworthy that he is in no way affiliated with the company other than him marrying into the family. So, as you can see, it is a strange situation. Other than that? I love the job. I really want to stay!

 

I certainly do not want to bring any regulatory authorities into the mix. It is farthest from my intention. my goal is to get advice from you guys and try really hard to improve. I think it is a shameful thing that I am not even a month into this gig and I am already falling on my face. I have to restrain cuss words at my disgust! I really like the work! I really want to stay beyond three months, beyond 6 months? I would not mind staying indefinitely? However, I just feel like I will have to do things that are not within proper operating guidelines to achieve this? As I eluded to in the previous post regarding the different opinion inflections by the popcorn gallery? It is a much tougher social environment than it is a working environment? Although, being dispatched as though I was driving a hot shot rig is fairly tough as well?

 

Job from hell? Yes! I agree with that statement completely. And I am not going to give up based on those loads alone. It is the open displeasure that is expressed that has me worried. I am not sure who looks more panicky? Me or the company? I mean, really man! I have only just started! Let me get acclimated before any expression of displeasure is brought up? It is obvious that I am driving my fargan ##### off? Isn't it?