Originally Posted by Willocouple

Naaaah, I sure would like to pretend it's so, but no way. Out of at least 6 backs between live trailers, I had to do pull-ups on 2 of them. On ALL 6 of the backings, he jumped on me cause I did this or didn't do that. So, believe me, it wasn't cause it was a good thing.

But, like I said, I don't even care anymore. I guess I have short-timer's attitude. I stopped caring a couple of mornings ago when I was in the sleeper trying to get some rest and what I heard going on in the front was the last straw. At first I heard that familiar snide tone as he was chastising my husband for getting off on the wrong off ramp. Mind you, it was an off and on, no drama involved. Maybe 5 minutes lost, max.

Then, there were issues with the dispatcher on the qualcomm and hubby read them to trainer, trainer made nasty remark about he can't do anything about it while he was driving (he was driving, obviously). I listened for a response from hubby, and I heard one loud and clear in his silence. Can't say what he was thinking on this forum, I'd get kicked out.

Then about 10 minutes later, qualcomm beeps again and wants the same info. Then the poop hits the fan. Trainer goes OFF on hubby. I mean screaming. Hubby just sits there. That broke my heart. The reason hubby has been taking all of this is because I asked him if we could please just get thru this and finish. Otherwise, we would have been standing on the side of the road with our bags a long time ago.

I jumped up and loudly asked him WHO is he yelling at. That shocked him and he said "them". I said "that's what I thought, cause I know you're not yelling at us".

Silence for many hours after that. Hubby later told me that that was his last straw and we were getting off at the receivers and taking a bus back to the terminal. After a long conversation, we decided to stick out the last week.

I don't think I mentioned earlier what part of the problem is....trainer plays up to me, but treats hubby like a dog. Doesn't include him in most conversations, chides me into not waking hubby up to drive, so I'll be up front with him, flurts and jokes with me, but snarles at hubby. Also, lies and tells me crap about hubby when hubby isn't around, like he has a chance in anything holy of trying to come between me and hubby.

Hubby is a big, strong, proud man....I've never, in 16 years known him to take crap from ANYONE. That's part of what makes this so hard. I know this is killing him....and it's hurting my heart to see him sucking this up. But.....again, we chose this path and waited too late to do anything about it, so we're riding it out. I'm just afraid of what will be said the minute he passes his test....I told him I back him 100%.....just don't knock him out cause I'm sure they'd frown on that.

That's part of the scenario.....just back ground to make this make a little more sense.

Originally Posted by Jonny1

Willo,

How did things go? What location did you test out at? Jonny

Originally Posted by telcobilly

Your husband will be blessed (and you too) for having the strength of character to bite down on the frustration and hurt. "This too will pass".

I just came from a similar situation at an entry level bike detailing job. The service manager is a surly, gruff, unappreciative man who seems to be angry at the whole world. After sucking it up for 3+ months (and surfing the internet on my laptop every lunch hour looking for a new job! lol), I got my last ##### chewing for missing some bugs and water marks on a customer's bike. I went to HR and did a letter on HR's request. Two weeks later I was "laid off", I never cussed anyone out, treated my coworkers and customers with respect and kindness and would have to pray real hard at night to maintain control.

The night before, my girlfriend and I had a heated discussion due to me bringing this home, the next day I was deliberately run off the road (riding my m/c) and then let go...I think God was telling it was time to move on, despite my commitment to earning and obligations. Now I start school next week, a long held dream of mine..
take care and keep the good attititude!

Originally Posted by Willocouple

Naaaah, I sure would like to pretend it's so, but no way. Out of at least 6 backs between live trailers, I had to do pull-ups on 2 of them. On ALL 6 of the backings, he jumped on me cause I did this or didn't do that. So, believe me, it wasn't cause it was a good thing.

But, like I said, I don't even care anymore. I guess I have short-timer's attitude. I stopped caring a couple of mornings ago when I was in the sleeper trying to get some rest and what I heard going on in the front was the last straw. At first I heard that familiar snide tone as he was chastising my husband for getting off on the wrong off ramp. Mind you, it was an off and on, no drama involved. Maybe 5 minutes lost, max.

Then, there were issues with the dispatcher on the qualcomm and hubby read them to trainer, trainer made nasty remark about he can't do anything about it while he was driving (he was driving, obviously). I listened for a response from hubby, and I heard one loud and clear in his silence. Can't say what he was thinking on this forum, I'd get kicked out.

Then about 10 minutes later, qualcomm beeps again and wants the same info. Then the poop hits the fan. Trainer goes OFF on hubby. I mean screaming. Hubby just sits there. That broke my heart. The reason hubby has been taking all of this is because I asked him if we could please just get thru this and finish. Otherwise, we would have been standing on the side of the road with our bags a long time ago.

I jumped up and loudly asked him WHO is he yelling at. That shocked him and he said "them". I said "that's what I thought, cause I know you're not yelling at us".

Silence for many hours after that. Hubby later told me that that was his last straw and we were getting off at the receivers and taking a bus back to the terminal. After a long conversation, we decided to stick out the last week.

I don't think I mentioned earlier what part of the problem is....trainer plays up to me, but treats hubby like a dog. Doesn't include him in most conversations, chides me into not waking hubby up to drive, so I'll be up front with him, flurts and jokes with me, but snarles at hubby. Also, lies and tells me crap about hubby when hubby isn't around, like he has a chance in anything holy of trying to come between me and hubby.

Hubby is a big, strong, proud man....I've never, in 16 years known him to take crap from ANYONE. That's part of what makes this so hard. I know this is killing him....and it's hurting my heart to see him sucking this up. But.....again, we chose this path and waited too late to do anything about it, so we're riding it out. I'm just afraid of what will be said the minute he passes his test....I told him I back him 100%.....just don't knock him out cause I'm sure they'd frown on that.

That's part of the scenario.....just back ground to make this make a little more sense.

Originally Posted by telcobilly

...I think God was telling it was time to move on, despite my commitment to earning and obligations. Now I start school next week, a long held dream of mine..

Originally Posted by telcobilly

Aftershock,
I hope you don't mind if I look to you as a source of an encouragement and advice.