Dude im so sad to hear that. I hope yall can work it out. Just stand strong and keep your head up.

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"Keep em rollin boys"

HI THERE i BELONG TO A FEW GROUPS ON MSN THAT DEAL WITH ALL THESE KINDS OR PROBLEMS FROM ADUTLS TO KIDS MY SON IS MENTAL HANDICAPPED , MY THING IS DID U KNOW ALL THIS BEFOR U MARRIED HER AND DID SHE ACT LIKE THIS BEFOR ??? IF SO U NEW WHAT YOU WHERE IN FOR . WHEN SHE PUTS HER SELF IN, THE DR DONT NEED TO LET HER OUT TELL THEY KNOW THAT THEY HAVE HER UNDERCONTROL . THEY ARE MEDS OUT THEY THAT CAN HELP SOME ONE LIKE HER AND I NOT BIG ON MEDS BUT IF U HAVE THE RIGHT ONE IT CAN HELP . HAVE U EVEY TALK WITH ANY OF THE DR. YOUR SELF? I JUST CANT SEE YOU LEAVEING HER ITS NOT HER FAULT, YOU WONT TO HELP HER U NEED TO BE BUY HER SIDE AND GO WITH HER WHEN SHE CHECK HER SELF IN AND TALK TO THE DR YOURSELF , DONT LEAVE IT UP TO HER SHE NEEDS HELP SO YOUR HER HUSBAND AND YOUR SOPOST TO HELP HER , I UNDERSTAND THE MONEY BUT I NEVER LET GO OF MY SON BECAUSE HE COAST ME TO MUCH IN BILLS DONT LET HER GO YOU MARRIED HER YOU MUST LOVE HER , MAYBE YOU BOTH NEED TO TALK TO SOME ONE TO HELP YOU BOTH . I AM NOT TRYING TO COME DOWN ON YOU BUT FROM ONE THAT KNOW SOME ABOUT THIS STUFF . YALL ARE BOTH IN MY PRAYES AND I HOPE YALL FIND A WAY TO STAY TOGHTER AND HELP EACH OTHER .JEN

Sounds to me like it was for better only. I hope you reconsider. It sounds like she needs you now more than ever. After her having to deal with the date rape, how will she handle abandonment, too? Just a thought...

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Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still...

I have been reading this post and it strikes me that the only thing that matters is the financial burden you think your wife is putting on you. Would you make these same choices if she were suffering from cancer, THOSE MEDS ARE VERY EXPENSIVE and so are the often time frequent hospital stays.

How easy is it to jump ship when someone we have chosen to bring into our lives needs our support/understanding. Until you are broke and I mean penniless and emotionally have not one more ounce to give, then and only then should you even consider abandonment......truckers talk about abandonment on their DAC, well this abandonment will be on your soul. I know this sounds harsh, and I cant judge you but maybe if someone stands up to you and tells you to act like a MAN you will reconsider and not make a potentially serious mistake that you will later regret.

What an idea.....wife is sick so I will get legal separation, let the state foot the bill for her care and then when and if she gets better we can resume our lives together....what a cop out and its CHEAP.

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LuvMyHubby
PROUD Mom of an enlisted man currently in Iraq
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you go luv thats how i fell you said it all just right so maybe this guy will get a clue or maybe his wife would be better off with out him any way if he care so less of her .

I knew she suffered from depression but none of the manic mood swings were there until after we were married.



Cancer is another matter. You generally can't help cancer. I think part of my wife's problem is that she craves the attention she gets at the hospital and from professionals. I can't be footing the bill for that. And the fact that she's using illegal drugs behind my back is not helping.

I don't just "think" she's putting a financial burden on me. She IS putting a financial burden on me. I'm paying half my pay in medical expenses. HALF. It's breaking me financially as well as emotionally. I'm afraid it's going to get to the point where I'm going to have to choose between my own medication and paying the bills. That's not a good situation to be in.

I'd regret it worse if I stayed married just for the sake of staying married and I didn't get the help she needed because I couldn't afford it.



I'm not going to wait until I'm peniless and ready to eat a gun before I decide to give up. What good will that do, then you'll have two people mentally destroyed.




If there were another way for me to take her off my insurance right now, I would. But there isn't. I can't just drop her until September and I've got to worry that they're going to stop paying for things anyways because they think that we're abusing the system because I don't think my insurance will cover long term mental health care.

I haven't slept well in months. For you that think I'm looking for an easy way out, you're sorely mistaken.

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Packrat: I think we know you are not trying to be mean; I do want you to see that you state you love her! If you love her and you are worried about the money, the only thing you need to do is get a divorce, live in your truck (except when you want to "visit" your wife) and this way she gets her medical hlp and you still have your marriage. Yes that is a little fib and the divorce thing might not be a nice thing to do, but at least you can still be with her and she gets the benefits. You could file bankruptcy on this later on!

Have any of you ever seen a State run mental facility?

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My childhood dream of becoming a truck driver turned into a nightmare!

Well I see one when I was younger like 16 and I did not like it, when I was in there I felt his creepy feeling and it seemed no one was around except the patients. Anything run by the state I DON'T TRUST!

Packrat,
Mariage is never easy. It's full of all sorts of struggle. It's another chapter in our life.
Remember those vows? For better or worse, sickness and health, richer or poorer, till death.
Life aint always easy, I been there and done that. The Lord tests us in ways we don't understand or think we can handle. The Lord never tests us more then we can handle.
Yes I know this aint easy, and it may get harder. Yet a divorce or seperation aint easy either. Put yourself in her shoes. If it was you with the problems, how would you feel if she was thinking of dong this same thing to you. She may tell you she's ok with it, but deep inside she's losing her biggest support system, you, her husband.
You took her as your wife, it's your job now to be there as her "rock", both bibilicaly and non-biblicaly.
Help is out there my friend. Just keep looking. And never give up. For if one thing I have learned throughout my lifes hardship is this....Love Never Fails. (1 Corinthians 13)
We'll pray for you. Don't give up, for sooner or later, good things do come to those that wait. And they'll come to you.

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Be safe and God Speed,
Reverend Matthew "The Dragon" Koscielski
!!!Proud to be a gear grinder!!!

Faith, Hope, Love. The Greatest is Love 1 Corinthians 13:13

Can anyone tell me what the middle peddle in my truck does, cause i never use it.