Your situation is just so sad, Packrat, and I really wish it could be different for you. I'm just pleased to know that she can finally get the appropriate care, and I hope all works out for you both. You know I wish you only the best. Hugs, Ducks

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PackRat, I am sorry to hear about your wife, but it seems like such a drastic move to separate right now...there are so many people that can help you and her....I know this personally because my daughter went through this problem also. But she was placed in a facility for treatment and it took a while along with medications, but she is doing much better now and really taken an interest in her life!
I feel your pain and I didn't know what I was going to do financially, but I sought help from the Mental Health and then they took over and eased my burden. So I do know you can get help for your wife...I will keep you and your wife in my prayers every night from here on out and I know God is capable of bringing you through this rough time...always remember you do have friends that do care.....God bless you and your wife!

I had the same problem years ago. You need to move on Unless you have a degree you can not help her. She atleast is willing to admit there is a problem. You should get some professional advice for yourself to see if you are in the position to stay in this marriage. Good luck

Good luck and wish you the best.

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The odds are against us, and the situation is grim - sounds like fun.
- Capt. James T. Kirk, Star Trek Generations


Ad eundum quo nemo ante iit

Pack Rat,
I will try to be as understanding as possible as I write this. I feel for you...I reallt do. I hate that you and your wife are going through this. I know from personal experience exactly what your going through. I was/use to be in your wife's place and I can tell you straight, seperating from her is not going to solve any of your issues. Please take more time to think about this decision.
You placing yourself away from her will only send her into a bigger rut with more episodes. She may be agreeing with you about this decision - but honestly..the woman had herself commited for a 3rd time..do you really think that she can make sound decisions right now ? Being Bipolar with manic depression and other issues - I find it grueling to make sound decisions by myself and let alone make good ones at that.

There are ways to get around what you need. You need help with research and probing the system. I use to work in a hospital and would have to clear the yellow tape before a patient could get on a charity program or a churches aid. If medical bills are the issue - focus on the local charity donantions, helping hands, united way, clinic programs..there are so many out there. They are a hidden foe because the gov't actually fronts most of them. And they are mostly word by mouth to find because they don't want everyone trying to get on it. State Aid is HARD to get on, you either make too much money or you have to wait the time duration to qualify.. I know that financial stress is horrible. And Believe it or not it ends 90% of Marriages. Don't run from your wife. You Married her and if you still care about her and Love her UNCONDTIONALLY then you will find another way. Get a support team going - Your wifes family or friends. Have everyone pitch in and figure out some answers to help you.

Like I said, I was in that same place with my Husband. We just had our 7th Anniversary. But the first 4 years were horrible. So many Dr's, Lock downs, Meds, and Episode. If he had ran out on me because it was too much to bare - I might have never recovered. We stuck it out and it all started to fall into place. And today we are a functional loving couple. It will all pass if you give it time, get a support team, and pray. I am not a religuous person but praying really does work.

I know that you are also scared. Your first gut feeling is to cut your losses. I don't agree with that at all. My Husband felt like that many times but somehow found strength to stick it out. What would you accomplish ? You will have regret and still have medical bills coming in anyway.

This is just my opinion. I hope you get some peace soon. Take Care and Be Blessed. I will pray for you and your situation.

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Mrs_Nash


30 years Young.
Mommy to D.J and Sheridan. Baby # 3 on the way ~ Summer 2009 !!

Wife to Daniel.

I LOVE MY TRUCKER.

That's what I get for not reading all of the posts

I am so glad that this worked out for you. I hope you found the peace you deserve and that you both can do what you set out to. Good Luck !

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Mrs_Nash


30 years Young.
Mommy to D.J and Sheridan. Baby # 3 on the way ~ Summer 2009 !!

Wife to Daniel.

I LOVE MY TRUCKER.

How are you doing? I am worried about you!

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"Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then."