I always looked at forgiving people who had hurt me as being a really hard thing to do. I thought it seemed so unfair for them to receive forgiveness when I had gotten hurt. I got pain, and they got free without having to pay for the pain they caused me. Now I realized that I am helping myself when I choose to forgive. I am helping the other person also by releasing them, so God can do what only He can do!

If I am in the way, trying to get revenge or taking care of the situation myself instead of trusting and obeying God, He has no obligation to deal with that person. However, God will deal with the people who hurt us if we will put them in His hands through forgiveness. It is our seed of obedience to His Word; and once we have sown our seed, He will bring a harvest of blessing to us one way or another.

I am helping myself, because when I forgive I release God to work. I am happy when I am not full of the poison of unforgiveness. I feel better physically.
http://www.joycemeyer.org/OurMinistr...cles/art48.htm

IMO: This does not mean we forget nor allow the person to hurt us to do it again (we are supposed to lean from experience) but I know from personal experience that once you let go of the hurt, venom and quit trying to figure out how to hurt in return your life DOES get better.

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Forgiveness...



How hard does it come. When you have been wronged to a point where forgiveness is required, give it. Don't fight. Don't hold onto the hate and anger and bitterness.

Remember that what you feed is what will grow.

I recently had a horrible experience which required me to not only forgive my husband for his actions but to forgive myself, for my attitudes and behaviors.

Had I not forgiven both of us, we would have lost a beautiful existence. But I let it go and placed it into the hands of our Lord. Actually, it was this experience which led me to Christ. I gave up and gave it all over to Him.

And I learned such a valuable lesson about life I will probably spend the rest of my life trying to put into words.

Many people view forgiveness as giving up something for someone else but not I. I have learned the truth and am grateful for it. Forgiveness is the reception of love and peace into your heart.

i might forgive but i never forget.................

To hold a grudge against another person is to drink the poison expecting the other person to die.......

and when they die i am there opening the gates to hell to let them in..........

the best way to get back at a hurt "loved", I 've found...........is too live life to the fullest......never, ever let them hold you back, if you believe you can ...........then guess what you can, doesn't matter what they think...........live life well, whatever that entails......and I gurantee you, you will exact the just desert you deserve.

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That is the same as saying "I do not forgive."

To never forget is to keep the incident in reserve so that at a later opportune time you can use it as ammunition.

I used to always say that but life has taught me the folly of that notion.

why because i don't forgive my ex-wife for being worthless, or my babies momma for taking my son away and hiding so i can't see my son for the last 3 almost 4 yrs and hating them so much i wish they would die a horrible death that i can watch and see the fear in there eyes before they die. and whats wrong with that. no issues there , just plain hate....

Why would you allow someone whom you despise so much to have such power over you?

As long as you wallow in selfpity and hate the individual(s) who(m) have caused you such pain, they are always at the top of your list, in your subconscious. They are controlling you through your inability to forget what they have done.

Let it go. Everyone has a story, and it is a tragedy. We have all experienced some hateful things. How you live with it will show all through your life. Get off the pause button in your life and press play. Move on.

Forgiveness doesn't mean submission to anothers will. Forgiveness is giving yourself the permission to live life to its fullest.

vengence?

is when youb can look at your life and say" HA, you f***er, you didn't control my life.......I merely, manovered around you!"

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