When your loved ones had 1st left for OTR did you notice any good or bad behavior/attitude changes? How did it negatively or positively affected your relationship (if you don't mind adding, I think that may be too personal for some)? My Love has been gone little more than a week and I talk to him everyday. I try to have something interesting to tell him each time we talk, but the last couple of days he seems to get an attitude with me, doesn't want to talk about anything and doesn't seem interested in anything I have to say. Also, he seems to get really annoyed at me if I ask him where he is at and if he has seen/done anything interesting. This is his 1st time away from home throughout his life and 1st time out of the state. I feel as though I've lost the intellectual man I love or am I just being weird?

Don't stress yet. He is probably just struggling with the newness of it all. Men are conditioned to be "manly men". He doesn't want to admit that he is having a hard time, missing you, regretting the job, or any other of the many thoughts racing through his mind. It will get better.

I should have mentioned before that around day 4 he was crying a little(WOWIES) and telling me this might not be for him now he says that he's enjoying it and becoming more distant with me.

Yep, I had crying on the other line too (I think we are in trouble here for revealing manly secrets). He could just be more distant because his brain is processing HUGE amounts of information right now, he isn't sleeping enough, and he isn't eating right. Is he out with his trainer right now?

Ladies I don't mean to overstep my bounds here but I'm going to offer my perspectiveI too have this problem. One question do you call him or does he call you?
See, for me at least, I hate it when I'm in a zone and my wife calls and wants to talk about nothing. I like to talk about what I want to talk about, this is typical of most males I have met in my life. My problem while I was OTR was that I was always getting passed by women and kids and it made me miss mine. Then at the end of the day you go to sleep by yourself to a cold bunk with no women in it. It kinda makes you feel like your a kid again. I have a belief that every man is happiest when his wife is around, regardless of whether you talk to her or not. It's nice to have a women in bed with you, it's comforting.

Also, now that you are not with him he's not getting home cooked meals and he is having to do all the house work( inside of truck much like a house, laundry, food, needs to be picked up). This is making him upset.

I agree it will get better once he has a routine. But most of all the hardest thing for him probaly is you. He can't have you and when a man can't have his wife it makes him mad. You can do nothing about this, it's a part of the job.

We don't cry we just have something in our eye.
I hope this helps, Wade

First things first, perspective is always welcome in my book =^_^= I always wait for him to call me, I have no clue if he is driving or doing something else that can't be done with distraction. I understand him having to deal with new things that he may not want to, but why does it seem like he is putting it all on me(venting would be ok but the attitude is a different story)? I'm alone in a cold bed too and I now have no one to come home to. I'm having my own problems adjusting to this and would never make my own problems push me so far as to treat my loved one like dirt. I have confronted him about this and he tells me that it's just nothing, that's it's in my head and that he doesn't have an attitude.

Give him some more time before you panic that something is wrong. He is just probably on overload out there.

I am sure there are other ladies out there with advice for her, right?

I'm staying with this thread until it gets mushy or you ladies kick me out. I didn't mean to say that it's your fault or that your not going through the same problems. I just wanted to provide the way I (as a male) felt when I was new to OTR. By the way is he new to driving a truck altogether?

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that only ladies knew what was going on. Of course a man's insight is just as important, if not more so since she wants to know what is going through her man's mind.

I can't tell you how many times my hubby and I both went thru attitude changes with him being gone and away from home.

WOW...it's NO easy task for him or the family that he left behind.

ALOT of stress both ways!

Hang TOUGH and think POSITIVE! IT will all work out in the end. YES it may take a while but it will be worth it to work through this HUMP together...

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