As a female trucker I have seen so many married men flirt with "trash" around the truck stops... and I am not saying your husband is doing this...but you will know by signs...he will act different or talk different because that is how I found out my ex was cheating on me....after that he was history....but I hope that he is just spending time otr trying to make money, but it would be nice if he had a laptop so you could talk with him when he is gone....I hope everything works out for the good because of your two young children...good luck!

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Since he started driving , sounds good to me.

It is very overwheming and you will never hear a man say it out loud. It is a stressful job , one of the most dangerous and underappreciated professions by a Good person behind the wheel.

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LOL this is a VERY good idea! I love it.

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Judas whizzzzz I went back and deleted that and the rest that was on there.

Well I guess that means I have to update my phone and get a camera, pic's of me and my Pops and Mom over Christmas in our new coats with big smiles and me in my santa hat with my best cousin (Like a brother I don't have) and me and my Rotti ( I have his top lips pushed up so it looks like he is smiling) which I had my friend send for me just won't do.

I think I best dawn my fella's old t-shirt (its my pillow case) and I think I better order me a Truckers Forum Cap, do you have them? and send that for a picture.
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Thank you for all the responses!! I am so glad this site is here it is great to have some whereto come and vent. I did talk to him today and things were alittle better. I am keeping my fingers crossed and definetly giving him the benefit of the doubt. Again thank you and talk to you all soon.

I have been there with a cheater before. Not a very fun time in my life. What I can tell you is that there are definitely signs. I knew he was cheating but didn't want to believe it. If you have signs that he is and have a gut feeling then I am sorry to say you are probably right.

I know that you don't want to hear that and god knows I hope that he isn't, but my advice is always trust your gut. I can't say if he is or if he isn't and there is a real possibility that he is just loving his job. But the part that worried me in your post is that when you ask him about it, it turns into a fight.

With my current husband now, if I ever would accuse him he would never ever get angry but that is because he has nothing to hide. He could care less if I check his phone and heck I am the one that checks his email for him all the time. I however, have never felt the need to check up on him and we both trust eachother, but he is not on the road without me so I can't speak on that subject.

He was in a horrible relationship before and he was cheated on and treated pretty bad, so he knows how it feels. We both believe very strongly that if there is ever a problem in our marriage that we will talk about it first and never go outside of the marriage. We both think that there is no point in cheating, if you are that unhappy then just leave. However, I think we would get counseling or something first. But I doubt it ever comes to that. Sorry I am rambling about my marriage now and that is not my intention. I want to offer you some sound advice but the truth is that unless you can prove it by truly catching him, then you may never know for sure.

I guess we all worry about cheating at some point. It happens so often now days. I honestly don't think that my husband would, but then again there is always that voice in the back of my head saying but you never know. I guess I am just not a very trusting person. I try to be but it can be hard. I do trust him, I really do, but then again. LOL I know I am not making sense here. That is how difficult of a subject cheating is. I think it is the lowest and worst thing one could ever do to their spouse. I took vows and have every intention of sticking to them. Cheaters are the scum of the Earth. Ok...so I have a little pent up anger from previous relationships. Can you blame me? Being cheated on is the pits. But I did soon find that my ex cheated on his new woman too. That showed me it wasn't me but it was him. I really do think once a cheater always a cheater!

Ok, I have gone on long enough. Sorry that I couldn't help. I really want to help but I am stuck on this one. I guess all I can say is hang in there and try to not let this eat at you all the time. I know easier said than done. But we are here for you. You can talk anytime. I will always listen and try to help. My shoulder is here if you need to have a good cry.

Take care. Hugs.

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Thank you for your response. I totally agree with you if you are unhappy then just be straight forward about it. I mean we have been together for 6 years now and two beautiful babies later if you feel the need then have at it. I just want a relationship that is stable and secure. I wonder if I will ever get the felling to go away. I have been cheated on in the past and I am sure that has alot to do with the trust issue also. I will tell you this be a truckers wife is definetly hard work. Talk soon1

Maybe he is just wanting to stay out a little longer to be home a little longer. Ya there is "dawgs" out there that hit on anything but I dont think this is true of all "men truckers". I met many that were totally devoted to their wife. Maybe they dont call their wives every nite but sometimes you dont have a signal--especially in the friggen mtns. And sometimes an 11 hour day extends and they just so tired they fall out. The majority of men out i have met--were generally nice and just out there doin their jobs. There is always a few bad seeds in the apple but just keep the faith and if he is--you will find out sooner or later unless you have proof of it.
I, myself dont have this issue for i am single. I dont think many men could handle a "lady trucker" cuz most are too jealous for it. I may be wrong but I am just out to do my job. But its easy to jump to thoughts of your hubby cheating since he has to be gone. Just hang in there-there can always be a good reason for it.

First of all, I would like to say hello. I too am a fiance of a wonderful "trucking" man. He has worked off and on since we've been together, but never been apart for more than one or two days. When he decided to go OTR with Werner, I knew we would have to be separated for some time. Being the spoiled woman that I am, I begged him not to go. But in his mind he was doing right by the family to take a job that would give him more miles even if it took him from us for a period of time. The first couple days were hard.. He was staying in a motel... alone. He's a good looking man and friendly to everyone... he has needs.. it would only be a matter of minutes and he could find some other sweet thing to lay with. Then I'd call and he wouldn't answer.. I was so scared at the same time thinking how stupid i must be to think these things. So I sat here worried sick continuously about what he's doing. Then I'd here from him.. He was shooting pool with some buddies in the motel or walked to waffle house to get some supper or something totally stupid. But no my pea picking mind made accusations that were not true. Then he started on the road with a trainer. I thought that would ease my mind knowing that someone else was with him. But I still worried. Questioned where he was and why he never answered my calls. Then after almost two weeks of him being gone, I put two and two together. His trainer doesnt like him to use the phone when he's driving and when he's not driving he's sleeping or showering or eating and he messages me whenever he can.. Usually before showering or before going to sleep. You need to have faith. The song I live by is a song by Sawyer Brown.. Six Days on the Road.. He says.. I could have alot of women but im not like other guys.. Thats my Tripp.. He knows he could have other women but it just wouldnt feel right. And believe me at the same time we sit here worrying about the loyalty of our trucking spouses they are thinking the same things. You just have to have faith and trust. Support the career and try to stay positive. Focus on the greater things such as the hard work that your man is doing in order to provide for his family. Trucking is not easy and its even harder when you dont have the support from your family.
Take care.
Mandy