I just kind of skipped over everyone elses comments on this, which I will read after I post this... but this hits home with me so I wanted to give you my opinion before I read what the others had to say.... I know exactly how you feel. My best friend Justin means the WORLD to me. He would do anything for me, as I would do anything for him. We've both dated other people throughout our friendship, and we've always been around for each other. But recently I cant even bring it to myself to even think about being with anyone else. I date guys, and I cant help but feel guilty. Everyone says "we're meant to be" ... and it reminds me exactly of how you're talking about you think he feels the same way, and he wants to say something, but he just doesnt. Its hard. You shouldnt let something slip away, but on the same hand how to you tell someone you value in your life that you care about them beyond a "friendship" way without the fear of completely ruining that friendship all together. I guess you just have to have faith in your heart and take the right measures of feeling his opinion out all together. Maybe see if you guys could meet up and doing something friendly for a weekend... something friendly, but could also be disquised as romantic?

Well... since Im on the same boat, if you find any better ideas please let me know!!!

GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!!!!!

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This is a womans way of thinking. Not that it' wrong but men and women think differently.
I would say 95% f men would be more then glad to hear that. Friend are easy to come by, good women aren't.
Now I'm going to hear. "You think you can't be friends without wanting more"... Well I wouldn't say that exactly but I will say that a man generally will not be friend with a woman that he finds undateable. Not to say he is just lying in wait to jump her .. An that's what people probably think I mean. I have lots of women friends.

I definately see what you're saying here. So, really... you're saying a guy wouldnt be friends with someone he doesnt find worthy of dating? And I know you didnt mean that by wanting to date, but yea... haha. Thats some good advice there.

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pert much

then again mabey i'm just shallow!!

Actually, I think I understand totally what you are saying. The way I'm understanding it is, you wouldn't want to be friends with a woman that doesn't have the qualities and personality that you would look for in a serious relationship. You don't have designs on a "relationship" with your woman friend, but know what you can "get along with", and what you value in a person in general. That's what you look for, both in your friends and your prospective mate. You also look for the same or similar qualities and personalities in your male friends. The only difference is gender, and how those traits are expressed in the individual.

Did that cover it?

And I prefer male friends myself. I grew up with mostly boys around, there weren't a lot of girls where I lived till junior high. I relate better to guys. Most of it is my personality. I know my "faults". I'm a flirt, and I like to be admired. Which guys tend to do a little better at. When I say flirt, I'm talking not serious. And I have much more fun cutting up and joking around with the guys.

Don't get me wrong, I am very empathetic. I can sit down with a total stranger and cry, just because they need someone to cry with. Woman or man. I can get along ok with women, it's just harder.

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Somewhere there is an energy leak.

It's a dog eat dog food world.

ya, what she said

What's with you men and being 'scardy cats' anyways?......oh well we love ya anyways and can't live without ya. It would just be nice if ya'll wouldn't sit like water in a jar and wait for us to make all the moves then run cause we scared ya, then come running back. Sheesh it makes a girl dizzy ya know. I mean I already have troubles cause I'm blonde and add this to it and well I'm just coo coo for coco puffs

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Two broken hearts
But not in vain...
No reasons why, no one's to blame
It's not the love, it's just the rain ...........Journey

I know you aint talking to me. I'm no scardy cat, not by a long shot. But once upon a time I had been in such a long string of bad relationships with psycho's and sociopaths that I was done with all of it. I fel bad for what my wife had to go through with me but I was done, didn't want nothing to do with any of ya. Luckally she isn't the type to give up that easy. She saw what she wanted and she went after it and between being persistant and VERY understanding she got what she wanted.

I'm feeling much better now thanks.

Heck no I was just making a general statement about you man creatures.

Your wife sounds like me......I know what I want and I plan on having what I want........and I don't mind waiting because I know it will be well worth it.

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Two broken hearts
But not in vain...
No reasons why, no one's to blame
It's not the love, it's just the rain ...........Journey

You women creature make us that way.. lol

We had enough issues. SHe was married, she's 9 years older then me and she lived 1200 miles away. Surprised it ever worked out