Guess I am lucky, there have only been a few times when I have acutally cried when he left, that was the first 5 or 6 months of the OTR life, now I just watch him leave and wave good bye......

We talk all the time and I think that helps more than anything to be honest. I keep busy here, and of course trying to keep him up to date makes it better for us both, that way he still feels like he is part of the "home front" and not just a visitor when he gets home.

It seems like now he leaves and is back again so quickly...its just 2 weeks I guess thats our "normal" there is no time to miss him, I have a choice be happy and get busy and be productive or be miserable and be productive...LOL I choose to be happy. Too much of me missing him and he feels bad, so I gotta be careful.

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LuvMyHubby
Proud mom of an Army Man
Wife of a trucker

Alot has changed since I started this thread. I guess I have adjusted very well. No more crying. I have alot to deal with here at home and it keeps my mind off of things. My children and this house are a full time job. This is our new life and I don't give it a second thought anymore. It's just the way it is. So I guess you could say that I have settled in nicely to our new routine.

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Good to hear cat 500, it lets all us newbie trucker wives know it will eventually get better

It does get better. In the beginning I didn't know if I would be able to do this or not. Now, I don't even think about it. I think staying busy helps alot. My children who had a very hard time in the beginning, have adjusted so well. They know this is our life and staying in touch with daddy everday has helped them so much. I worried about my daughter in the beginning (she had a VERY hard time with it). Now, she knows that's our life and seems quite content with it.

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It does get better! Right now, I'm actually EAGER for mine to leave. I'm working on a really complicated afgan for him for the truck, and I'm trying to finish it for our anniversary!

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okay here goes...My husband has been truckin for 10 years and I still cry like a baby when he leaves and can't stand it when he's here to long...Where is the happy medium? We never fight when I go with him but here at home is another story WHY? And then all I can do is hope that he isn't picking up those NASTY things in the truckstops.. (he really isn't the type but my mind seems to think he is) Am I going crazy?????

well Pat is leaving today i had to go to work so i kissed him good bye we had a short time this time but it ok now well see how i fill in a few days lol he been gone for 5 weeks this time

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to everyone who says it helps to stay busy, how do you not stay busy? My hubby and I don't have kids but theres constantly something to do. Especially, since reading a truckers line on here about not expecting your trucker to help around the house when hes home. He gets to relax every weekend, which I'm happy for him, but sad for me. After working at least 5 days a week outside the home, I have to do all the household chores and repairs and if that wasn't tiring enough my hubby brings home 2 loads of laundry every weekend for me to do and leaves a mess in almost every room in our house by the time he leaves. I love my trucker but I guess I'm just feeling tired and very unappreciated. I know I love my trucker because everytime I drop him off at his truck I feel like my heart is breaking. Any advice on getting over this slump would be greatly appreciated. Honestly though it just felt good to vent. Thanks!!

There is NO reason to NOT expect your hubby to help out when he gets home, your supposed to be a team and he is not at the local motel with maid service to say the least. He should NOT expect to come home be a lazy butt and have clean laundry waiting when he gets ready to walk out the door.

YES it would be nice if you could arrange to cook a nice meal for him or let him sleep in a little bit BUT he is not a visitor and shouldnt be treated as such. YOU work everyday too, just because its not behind the wheel of a big truck does NOT mean you are not tired or stressed and then you do go home to do all that is needed there.

YOU need to be good to yourself and when he comes home get him to do chores WITH you. IF he had a regular job and was home everynight would you put up with him acting this way?? I know this sounds harsh but it isnt ment too....one person cant do it all for two and he SHOULD be happy to be home doing things with you.

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LuvMyHubby
Proud mom of an Army Man
Wife of a trucker

Well, I work outside the home and work at home as well. When my hubby comes home he does do housework and even sews his own buttons on his shirts when needed.

He's not much of a cook, but there is stuff that can be put into the microwave for a pleasant dinner.

This is a busy life him and I lead and he has to step in and do some things.
He's good at swiffering and running the sweeper.

This last weekend we both were out weeding the flower beds and doing chores together. We enjoy being with each other and working side by side.

Its a good feeling when the housework and chores are done and we can sit and watch movies, play with the dogs and just enjoy the time remaining we have off.