well mine as never been one to clean up around the house now or befor he started driven but he does alwasy cook and as always cook . he dose now if i dont have time he will do his on wash when he come home , and he trys to do things in the yard and stuff if need be. but some men your just not going to get to help ya to do the house and some men dont mind and do . i would not let him treat you like your his maid tell him he can do the yard or fix thing around the house that to me is what a man does any way .

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When mine comes home he is always busy. I do alot for him, but there are things he does for me when he's here. We both do the yard work together. We have always done that even before he drove. I usually mow and he weed eats and does the stuff I can't do. But, if I need help when he comes home he is always there to do it for me. I would love for him to be able to roll in and not have to do anything but I am a busy person too and he knows that, so he is always ready to jump in when I need it, because we are a team.

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I miss my hubby every minute of everyday but by the time he has to go I am so very ready for him to gooo! The first day is always the hardest for me but I keep busy cleaning, cuttin up, on the phone or on the net.

I guess the hardest thing for me is having to learn to be independant again, it's been eight years. Greatest thing in the world is feeling that renewed sense of respect for them while they are gone and falling in love all over again when you see him. Most marriages miss the latter because they are cramped up with living life and forget to take time out for themselves.

That being said mine will be home this weekend! Now, gotta get the house looking perky and thats a bit difficult when you are addicted to this web site!!! Oh well, maybe tomorrow! lol

~Samantha~
aka Fred

Thanks for the responses. I was really stressed when I wrote that and I may have made my hubby sound really bad. Im sorry for that because hes not a lazy bum. I know he works hard out there and that his job is stressful. I appreciate what he does to keep us out of debt because we couldnt survive on what I make! I dont know how much time is usual for you hubbys to be home but with mine its always a guessing game. Its almost impossible to make plans with friends and family ahead of time but most of the time they understand that. This past w/e my hubby didnt get home until 8:30 saturday morning, so after being awake driving all night he just slept most of the day. I can understand him sleeping but I had alot going on this w/e and it would have been nice if he would have been home the night before and could have helped me get some stuff done. But thats ok, maybe next w/e. Its not always like that though. Sometimes he gets home friday and then on saturday he will help me with little things here and there. Sometimes he cooks us dinner when hes home but I seriously thinking washing dishes just baffles him to much to try. But I cant complain cause I didnt have to cook! I teased him about not doing dishes when he cooks cause he used every dish and he went out and bought me a dishwasher. Something we never could have afforded before he started trucking. About every other w/e he bags up the trash for me and gets it ready to be set out on the curb. Sometimes he'll carry the laundry upstairs for me since the washer is downstairs and the dryer is on the back porch.
I guess when I read what that one trucker wrote that in here about not expecting your husband to work when hes home I just took it to heart and try to take care of everything durning the week so that when he comes home he can relax and hopefully we can enjoy our time together no matter how short or long. The work will never be done (laundry, dishes,ect...ect...) and I just need to accept that and not let it stress me out.
thanks for listening!!

This is Eagle Ones wife. Do I miss him? ABSOLUTELY! This has been really hard for both of us. Im finding I cant handle alot of what he did at home. And am having to make it where I can handle it. Its alot of changes from both our parts. Ive had to find a home for one of his 3 dogs, and still looking for a home for the other. The one was lab but didnt listen and hurt me every time I tried to tend to him. The other is part pit bull. Hes a big lug really, loves to ride in the truck on garbage day, but he doesnt know his own strenth, and has pulled my left arm out of socket doing his gator roll. If I can find him a home, that will leave the german shepard. And hes a peach. I still cant figure out how to run his air compressor to fix the flat tire on the riding mower. Once I figure that out, I can mow the 8 acres. I sure dont want to do it with a push mower. Trying to find someone with a chainsaw to cut off huge limbs on our apple trees that broke from too many apples. I did finally get oil and liquids put into the truck the other day. I can usually do most general things with cars like the fluids, battery and changing the tire. But I have to climb into the motor area of the truck just to get at it. I also have to jump into the drivers seat too. Im only 5'. Only weigh 92 pds. Aint no way I can change the tire on that thing if I need too. Been putting up apples, corn, tomatoes and green beans in the freezer for winter. Can't can- tried for years-never turned out. Cleaned out the grapes today. And I know winter is coming and things need to be done before it gets here, like covering the pipes, windows fixed, and so on. Yeh, I miss him terrible. He's just started out and I know its going to take time to get used to living this way. This week will be especially hard, because he still has one week to go for over the road training and taking more tests before he gets his own truck. We've been married 31 years the August 13th, and we've never been apart longer than 2 weeks at a time. He is my better half-he helps make me. He wont be able to be home for our anniversery. He has never missed one. But I know hes doing this to better us as a family. Our goal is to be debt free. He doesnt want me to have to work at all anymore. He says I've worked like a dog since I was 11 and I shouldnt have to anymore. Thats one of the reasons I love him so much. Ok, getting sobby. better go.

Hi all well i am missen my man right now he been gone for 2 weeks still have 3 more weeks to go . but its been a little hard to talk now that he is training and no thanks to our t- moble who we have our cell with sucken lol. no mobile as hubby call them cant watie tell feb when we change any way so ya i missen him some .

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Doing better today. Went to fellowship Wed. night and that helped alot. We have a few truck drivers wives in our church and that helps with support also. Getting some of the things taken care of finally. But not all. Im not a mechanic. I do some small things, like put fluids in the truck, fix things thats come loose and so on. But not major things like he can. Like the saying goes, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Makes me appreciate everything he does do when hes here.

Interesting to hear someone else having problems with Tmobile.
Is there anything better, getting fedup with no signal, losing calls halfway thru, we are mostly on email/wifi now its getting so bad.

Find a collar that has the flat-headed spikes on the inside at a pet store. We have a bloodhound-doberman mix that I swear could pull a rig out of a ditch. I had to buy one of those for her because she is so strong, even though she's not a huge dog (somewhere between 50 - 60 pounds). A couple of gentle tugs on that, and she settles right down. It doesn't hurt them, it just applies light pressure on their neck that even a choker collar doesn't provide. I only put it on her when I take her for walks. It has saved my shoulders big time!

Yes, I miss my hubby all the time too! I start getting antsy a day or two before he's due in. We don't own a house, just rent an apartment, so there's not as much to take care of while he's gone. Eventually, we would like to rent a place in the country though, so then the work load will go up some. My hubby also has a bad habit of leaving things laying all over when he first gets home, but he does eventually get it picked up. He helps with laundry, cooking, dishes, and other stuff while he's home. He also takes the dog out most of the time while he's home too. He spends time with our 13 year old son, playing video games, tossing the football around, and other stuff as well. Sometimes, by time he has to go back out, I'm ready to push him out the door, and other times, I wish he worked local.

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Eagle ones wife(edifyunityfaith): Thanks lilbit that suggestion about the collar really helped. At least now I can take care of him without getting beat up. Having a hard time with finances, it seems what pay my husband gets right now gets eaten up in taxes and health insurance for him, plus what he needs to live on while hes gone. Out of 289.00, I got left with 17.56 to pay the bills. He says it will get better once hes got his own truck and on the road, but the bill people dont care about that. Meantime, Im left this week trying to find a way to take of some of the bills and take care of what is needed here. Dont have much left to sell, and already hocked the title to the truck in. Thought of having a yard sale, but its been raining the last 2 days and 2 more days to come. Anyone have any ideas that may help thats legal? Thanks.