LOL, is there someone or something in your life that has just simply been discussed til there are simply NO WORDS left to say?....its been hashed over so much the thought of having to say one more word about the subject is physically draining??

How do you deal with this?

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I went through that with my ex husband. We had so many problems going back so far and nothing ever got resolved no matter how much we talked. We finally quit talking, but that silence and the inability to make any changes caused me to be extremely depressed. There was always this "what's the use" feeling to every day. I dealt with it by finally leaving him. When I did he was completely shocked. Because I gave up and was silent for so many years he took that to mean everything was fine. Sometimes a man needs to worry most when a woman ISN'T complaining.

And I had a similar situation at work recently. I kept doing and doing, doing 2 jobs in addition to my own, all the while not complaining, and they continued to pile it on. When I did finally say something I was informed that I had a "bad attitude" to be saying I was doing jobs that were not mine, that I was to do "anything asked of me." So I kept on for awhile, silently doing my job, another job, and half the bosses job. Then last week they pushed again, and I simply said "No," and walked out. Now the boss who CONSTANTLY complained about how overworked she was (ha, I was doing half her job) gets to do all of it, and they never saw it coming. Sometimes it is us quiet ones you have to watch out for.

The squeaky wheel may get the grease, but it is the silent one that blows out in an instant and causes a crash!

Sometimes when words fail, you just have to take action and let those actions speak.

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"What I'd like to do is go down in history as the President who made Americans believe in themselves again." - Ronald Reagan

This happens frequently in my house. If it's a decision to be made and we've discussed it with no end in sight, I grab the reins and make the decision. Right or wrong, at least I've DONE something and gotten us beyond the impasse.

However, if it's an annoying behaviorial pattern, I refuse to nag. (It's just not my nature to belabor a point. I speak my piece and that's pretty much all you'll hear of it.) I just drop the subject with the understanding that I cannot change a person if s/he has no desire to change. In most cases, it's not that big of a deal anyway.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

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I only like Hash with my Eggs!

I will not and refuse, call it stubborn or whatever the word is, get into discussions that have no ending.

Solve or eliminate is the only way.

If a decision cannot be made, then I make it and stick to it.

Right or wrong or indifferent, one was made.

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When dealing with a rational person, I can say, "We will just have to agree to disagree on this." and we put the whips away and quit beating the dead horse. When dealing with my brother and his girlfriend, I mean, irrational people; I learned recently to not invite them to your house. That way you can always leave. They can stand there talking to themselves until the second coming, if they choose, but you can go on with your life. Unfortunately, if they are at your house you either have to go to bed or call the police to have the lunatics removed from your property.