A dirty friend

If this was a random post and you read it, being on the other side, what would you tell the OP?


I have "friends" that do "stuff". What they don't do is drive a truck, receive advice from me to drive a truck or watch my dog while I'm on vacation. If he cleans up and stay clean for a couple years, have at it. Right now though. Don't be the nice guy.

 

Good guy or not, you have no control over what he does. It is fine if you want to help him that is fine but he would need to be clean more than a few months for me to even give a ride to. Imagine if he was carrying something when you got checked. They have had dogs at weigh stations before and will in the future. It's your dream truck, you have to be grown up enough to make the hard decisions in order to keep that dream.

 

If I was you I wouldn't invest in him. If you do you should tell him if he can stay straight for a year you'll pay for his training.

 

How old is the owi and theft. Does he still smoke weed. If he does don't do it.if his crimes are recent probably won't get hired on.

 

If you're serious about helping him, tell him that he must get clean and stay clean for a good amount of time (at least a year), to show you that he is serious, before you are willing to invest in his education and in trust him with your valuable assets. If you don't make him prove his serious intent first, you will be enabling him to continue his current lifestyle.

For the record, this whole scheme of yours seems poorely conceived and will, most likely, end in a great financial loss.

 

...not to mention, you may be BFFs right now, but after living with someone in the truck for a few months, you may end up wanting to eviscerate him. I teamed with mine for 6 months and let me tell you, either I had to get my own truck at that point or I would have soundly murdered him in his sleep, and he didn't have near the problems your buddy seems to.

 

You are going to have to toughen up. You can't afford to let emotions in on this life you have chosen. You can't feel bad for every friend that you acquire that makes bad choices. Another thing, If he lights up around you, walk the hell away and get out of there. If you are busted when riding together and there is a stash under your seat, who do you think the cop is going to suspect. It's just not worth the hassle.