Driver wife had stroke, can't find...

Ask the police to contact him, or hire a PI. Court records will show his social security #, and if she is lucid she should grant an attorney the right to her records. On the request of a judge the police can find him easily, they can easily get his current company or contact number. They won't share it with you, but if it is a medical emergency they will contact him on her behalf.

 

1. Contact any known family members or known friends, people he routinely did business with in the past, his lawyer, etc.
2. Hire detective agency that specializes in finding lost souls.
3. Google the heck out of the internet (including Facebook, Match.Com, etc.) to see if anything current pops up with his name.
Now, just from your brief description of the situation it sounds like they are really-really separated to the point of little to no contact. Could it be possible that he does not want to be found by her or any of her friends?

 

That's a very one-sided story, and while you support your friend always be wary of asymmetrical information. Why does she want to contact him? They should have filed for annulment if this actually occured 8 days afterwards, or she could have gotten a divorce without his consent if he was charged with "a lady of the evening". Again, why would she want to contact him? If she is looking for medical support assistance have the attorneys file everything for her, if she has been driving a while she likely has a decent disability payment coming from SS as well.

 

Wow. Sounds like a Lifetime Movie. Has he gone to court yet on his arrest (trial dates are usually public records)? If he has already gone, could the sentence have included active time or a probation officer (some states you can look up convictions/punishments)?
Apparently they must not have been together long enough to file taxes......which would have his SS number.

 

? What? Nothing small about an industry with 3.5 million people, and a driver is only judged based on experience/accidents/driving record. You are honestly hired (if youre honest on your application) before anyone ever sees you. Mind sharing ages?