Trucking can be like a bad marriage...

Discussion in 'Road Stories' started by ghostchild, Feb 4, 2009.

If you could do it all over again would you...

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    Have stayed with the 1st company you started with?

    14.6%
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    Became a lease or owner operator when you first started?

    14.6%
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    Left the industry long ago?

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    Tranfered into the admin part of trucking?

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    Would change nothing about your trucking career.

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    none of the above..but...

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  1. ghostchild

    ghostchild Road Train Member

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    On my way here I ran out of gas...in an area I don't really like, and there happened to be bible canvassers in the area, and fate would have it they came over to my vehicle...

    Anyhow, it's a story I shared elsewhere, the mentality of this forum isn't really set up for that kind of sharing...

    This forum is more 'nut's and bolts'...

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    Just kinda like basic raw emotion sharing...

    I have other places I share my more intamite thoughts, with a much more broader audience.

    Not that a few here couldn't appreciate a more 'refined style' and or presentation...

    But the majority here are like 'nuts and bolts'

    (funny thing is, others probablly feel the same way, and only come here to satisfy their nuts and bolts side, but like myself, probablly have other, more refined sides that they feel others would not be receptive to here)...

    But anyhow back to the nuts and bolts...

    Things are hard...I gave up good or decent money on the road, for this...well not this per say, but for the unknown...

    It would be easy for me to jump back into a truck and escape...it would be so easy...and I'm daily tempted to...as I've done so many times in the past...'escape in a truck and leave all problems behind'...

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    And I still may, if I've exhausted all other realistic opportunities...

    But often times in the past, instead of sticking it out, I would take the easy route, not realizing that had I stuck it out a bit longer, something big would of come through...

    And such is the case now...I can see little things starting to piece themselves together...but it's a slow process...and sometimes painful and humiliating.

    My logical side knows I can't turn around an empty life, in 2-3 months, when it took years of over the road neglect to make it this way.

    When I was over the road, I needed know inferstructure...when your at home, or one place, you very much do.

    People have to get to know you all over again, jobs, or those in positions to hire you, have to get to know you and so on...it's a slow process...and in the past i wasn't willing to wait around for it to develope...

    But if I go back out there again, and bury myself over the road for weeks, months, at a time...it will never happen...

    Not only that, but I did learn a few things from reading other peoples comments in the bad trucking section...I'll share that next...
     
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  3. Bumpy

    Bumpy Road Train Member

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    Here is a poem my Grandma taught me as a pre-teen,-perhaps she knew something.? Anyway,it may sound corny to some,but,I admit it helps me to this day at age 51..Maybe you all have heard it,but,IF NOT...- When things go wrong,as they sometimes will.,when the road your trudging,seems all uphill,when the funds are low,and the debts are high,and you want to smile..,-but have to sigh...When care is pressing you down a bit,rest if you must....But dont you quit. Life is weird,with its twists and turns.,and many of us sometimes learns..And many a person,turns about,when they might have won,had they stuck it out...Dont give up,though the pace seems slow...You may succeed with another blow..Often the struggler,has given up,When he could have captured,the victors cup...And he learned to late,when the night came down,how close he was,to the golden crown...So stick to the fight,when your hardest hit,its when things seem worst...YOU MUSTNT QUIT....
     
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    ghostchild Road Train Member

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    Ghostchild...God said put the helmet of salvation on your head and the breastplate of righteousness on your chest. God never mentioned protection for our backs because God never intended for us to turn and run. If we stay focused on the front-where He is-He promises his angels will have our backs. Peace in Christ.
     
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    ghostchild Road Train Member

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    Ok, this is...is...odd....

    Yesterday I ran out of gas and was approached by bible canvessers...a man and two ladies...

    Before that, a security guard started talking about nutrition and God to me...a security guard of all people...

    And before that a grocery store employee led me outside (while on duty and in their uniform), and publically started praying....

    And now souls on here have kinda stepped up and are telling me about the love of God...wow...

    Wait, I need a calculator so I can compute all this...

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    All I can say is I'm baffled...and it takes a lot to baffle me...

    I'll be back shortly...
     
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  7. Bumpy

    Bumpy Road Train Member

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    Nah,you dont need a computer...,-all you need is...you guessed it,- God....- "Bless you Brother..:biggrin_2554: :biggrin_255:
     
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  8. ghostchild

    ghostchild Road Train Member

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    Ok, back to trucking for a moment...

    When I first started it felt totally different...

    I forget who said this, but someone on the 'report a bad trucking company'...an old timer...

    Something to the effect 'there are no more dispatchers, just college graduates who are called 'driver managers' ect ect...

    And that's it...when I first started, dispatchers were always older than me, and mature...they were more like air traffic controllers...

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    You kinda felt you were in good hands, people who were mature and above and beyond childish games...

    It seems now those days are gone...
    Now when you go out there your like in the hands of some Charlie Sheen type...

    Or some Brittney Spears type of dispatcher...totally clueless...
    And your literly in their hands for weeks, months at a time...

    It seems trucking has become about games now...

    The origonal titans of trucking, like Schneider, Werner, Knight, ect ect...

    It seems when they got old, they left these companies in the hands of their sponge bob generation off spring...the Jerry Springer generation off spring...and now we're seeing the effects...

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    I mean, can I make a serious living out there anymore while in the hands of such
    dispatchers or 'driver managers'??

    In the past, I could go out there with confidence that I could make decent money, and living...but now...now...I just don't know...

    The Sponge Bob generation has tooken over...and I don't know if I can deal with that...

    They took a few college courses, and now their qualified to be dispatchers...ok...

    I relate to you old timers more than you realize...cause when I first started...you were out there...but the industry was trying to get rid of you...I remember...

    They were trying to get rid of the what I call 'Hippie cowboy' types...now look what it has turned into...it's scary...the honor and prestigue is gone...

    I don't feel confident that these modern day 'driver managers' know how to earn me a good living anymore...

    And it seems, at least from me reading the 'Report a bad company thread' that any time you leave company now, they go out of their way to make you look bad by leaving bad remarks on your DAC...again...games...but games that can destroy your ability to find work...

    It's tough...cause many of us still like, enjoy trucking...but aren't down with the new enviornment or climate of games...

    There is no easy solution right now...I wish there were...

    We'll just have to see what happens I guess...
    Thanks for your continued support...we're kinda all in this together...
     
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  9. U4EA

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    Hey,

    That guy who had his secretary call me Friday afternoon - the secretary who had no other info except "pick the truck up in NJ and drop it off at a port in Baltimore", then said her boss would call back with more info...

    Well, he called me back at 6:30am this morning asking me if I'd go....it is a Volvo tractor. Supposedly, he buys trucks and resells them.

    I said "sure", but why are you calling me at 6:30am on a Sunday morning, you couldn't have called last night, or Friday night like your secretary said? I had a surprise birthday party which I payed $35 per person (my girlfriend and I), for my grandparents 90th and 95th birthday; statistically, this could be their last B-Day, so I wasn't about to break that commitment.

    He said he'd understood, and would call me later in the day since "he wasn't sure of some of the specifics of the trip". I ended up missing his call, and when I called back he didn't pick up (he didn't leave a message either).

    Oh well, I found it funny that someone who I never even met, had no info on me - i.e. whether I actaully had a license, a drug problem, etc....wanted to fly me to NJ to pick up a truck and deliver it....

    I must have a "trusting" voice. :biggrin_2559:
     
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  10. U4EA

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    Honesty - I appreciate honesty...

    I thought about driving OTR for an O/O. I've driven regional (Mass, NH, NY, NJ, ME, VT); but not over the road; not gone for 3 weeks home for 2 days. I never had the desire, the gypsy lifestyle, robbing me of family, relationships and life experiences.

    The O/O liked me, and my references spoke highly of me. His only concern was the fact that I've never driven OTR, and worried the lifestyle would cause me to quit in a week.

    Valid concern; I wouldn't want to put someone in my truck, just to have them quit and say this job stinks. I agreed with him 100%, small business owners need to cover their butts; do what's in the companies and their best interest.

    But I appreciated his honesty...

    He told me OTR is not a decision to take lightly. He drove his own truck for a while, quickly disenfranchised with the glory of long haul trucking. Told me he'd sell the truck before he'd go back OTR.

    He told me:

    If you have a life outside of work, consider it gone/done/over.

    If you have a relationship, OTR can be a destroyer. Being gone for 3 weeks at a time, he said he's seen "alot of bad things happen to relationships".

    The life that you have know, the freedoms you have taken for granted - gone.

    He told me, "Honestly you seem like a smart guy, involved in a long term relationship - I don't think it's monetarily worth the possible of losing all of that. It happens more often than not, I see it all the time."

    I appreciate his honestly...
     
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  11. ghostchild

    ghostchild Road Train Member

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    Ye, that's one scenerio....

    That's why companies, over that last decade, have gone out of their way to make it as comfortable for drivers as they possible can...

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    Many of these trucks are out fitted better than small studio apartments, as far as feature comforts...

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    This particular model is nice and spacious...allows for a TV, cooler, and all the other goodies, and many come with apu units now for perfect tempurature control...

    Plus with satelite radio and your cell phone or ipod...it can get very comfortable at times...

    And the commute...I use to always joke, it's the shortest commute of all jobs, just hop from the bed or bunk, to the seat...in your under clothing if you want...

    I've done it, so have other drivers...it's freedom, it's fun, until DOT asks you to step out of your vehicle for a quick inspection, and they open the door and see your bare legs and undergarments..:biggrin_2554:

    Plus if you have a CB radio...

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    You can at times talk to other drivers out there, shoot the breeze, get instant real time traffic reports, sell stuff, find a date...:biggrin_25525:

    What I'm saying is...some guys or gals get in a truck like this, get dispatched out to Arizona...and just enjoy the ride, the scenery, the food, and when stopped or parked or have down time, some get out and explore...catch a cab to the zoo or a nice resturant or other sites...

    (ok, obviously I'm trying to sell myself on trucking again, in case I end up back out there)

    But it's not all doom and gloom...it just depends on ones personal needs at the time and moment...

    Ones mental state, goals and obligations...

    Me personally, I don't like where I'm at, work is slow, things cost, and I feel like I'm lugging along...trying to live some past glory that just isn't there anymore...

    So I have some tough decisions to make here soon...for my own future...

    If I have to go back out, I'll adjust my attitude, and do what I gotta do...and make the best of it until next time...

    Continued on next post...
     
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