Child Support Question: Help me be Fair?

"Dont breed'm if you cant feed'm."

Thats my saying towards needy single unwed mothers.

 

*simply stares at you*

So, because you chose to marry a worthless woman you're going to make a sweeping judgement that no man is responsible for the children he helps to create? How utterly impressive.


Now. When I married my husband 29 years ago I married him knowing he had two children from a previous marriage. I knew that those were HIS children and thus they were partly MY responsibility. But one of the things I respect and admire about my husband is the fact that never ONCE did he try to not provide for those girls. He divorced his wife not his children. Was she scum? Absolutely. Did she hide his kids from? Why yes she did. Did she live like a #####? Why in fact she became a professional #####. Did she have other children later from various men? Yes she did. Did she abuse his daughters? Why yes she did. Do I think she was the ultimate trashy woman? Why YES I DO. But those two girls were his daughters and we had a responsibility to them. So we did what was right. We paid that child support faithfully and we paid it FIRST every month. We also fought for our kids, search for them, prayed for them and ultimately got the younger one after the older one married and contacted us. We fought that scummy woman, the MA court system and our daughters know that we love them and provided for them. Where is the woman? She's now dead and frankly I believe she's burning in hell.

A man........a REAL man provides for his children no matter what he thinks about the woman HE chose to do the wild monkey tango with and create a child.

A selfish pig walks away and thinks only the mother is responsible.

 

Texas-Nana couldn't have said it better.

 

To Wannabefair:

I'm going to talk to you like you're one of my daughters.


Honey it's absolutely admirable that you care whether your ex husband's new wife and their child are taken care of. It speaks so highly of your character, compassion and your heart. However, you're not responsible for them. You're responsible for your children. You are their advocate on earth, you are their protector. Their daddy should be their protector but he's cut and run so now it's up to you.

He is responsible to help support your children. You've been to court, the judge took into consideration his income and what the judge felt is fair. Now you're considering second guessing the judge due to emotional blackmail from the second wife.

Block her emails. Right now. Do it. You do not have to read her emails or discuss this issue with her. You weren't married to her, you were married to him. It is not the responsibility of your children to do without in order to provide for her and her child. It's her responsibility and his. Period.

If he doesn't pay......go back to court. You tried to work it out with him and he told you he wouldn't support his child unless forced to by the court. Let the court do it's job. Just follow the steps of the law and provide for your child.

Put away your guilt, put away her emails, put away their bull poop and follow the steps of obtaining child support through the court.

I'm so happy for your children that they have you for their mother and not that other woman.

 

True go get a job. Trying to get the man for ever thing.. Smh and he have other kids.

 

My guess is 2100 is his NET take home a month....if that were his gross he wouldn't be running his own truck....so 300 is not much a month....not sure where you live but I live up in the northeast and I pay 200 a WEEK and that's only cause the ex and I made a deal should have been closer to 300 a week....go back to court make him provide proof of income

 

the op is from 2011. dont think she has been back since

 

Yeah I saw after I hit send...lol...thanks

 

He's making more than $2,100. He should pay to helpwith his children's support. Social Services has a graph, go with that as soon as they find him. The new wife has a 5 month old child means it might be tough for her to find work soon.