So my husband wants to become a trucker

Well I hate to be blunt, but if that was my wife's out look I would say hit the road. My wife respects what I do and backs me. She and I both make sacrifices to provide for our daughter. I am glad she does not see divorce because I am providing for them. Just curious; if your husband was in the military and in a combat zone and gone for a year would you bail on him?

 

The more I think about it just go ahead and tell him now if he does you will leave him. It is tough on a new driver to make it out there as it is anyway. When he gets out there he will not need any more stress on him from the house. He will be stressed enough the 1st year. When a driver starts worrying about what their spouse will do chances are great he will kill someone or be killed while driving. I hate to sound so bleak, but it takes two to survive a marriage in trucking. Trucking is not for everyone. Does not sound like a good fit for your family.

 

Get this said right now and make sure that he understands that the choice is you and his family or basically the adult equivalent of joining the circus. I have advised many new prospective drivers that unless the have FULL support back home, then this is a stupid move! There are many spouses who do not want to be made a single parent while the other person runs off to live in a metal box for the rest of their lives.

 

Not even remotely the same. It's a completely bogus argument...

 

No it is not. I am a former vet and trucker. My wife supports me in both! It is the same. If a woman will not stand by her husband I don't want her. I trust my wife and she trust me. It takes two to survive a marriage. I don't want to hear if you ain't here I am leaving. I have deployed twice and I am a trucker. I want a woman that will be there when things get tough. Our vows did not say until you deploy or truck. It said until death do you part!

 

This is a tough profession and it takes alot of support and acceptance to change from the whole family.
If any of you go into this with a negative attitude it will end this way.

My husband has my full support to be gone and to turn those wheels for our financial stability. He could never do anything different as he has done this now for over 20 some years. I have lost count...lol

My understanding for his job and for others came a few years ago when I took a job in the trucking industry.

Iam not saying you got to do that...but you got to keep yourself busy and content at home while he is away.
Maybe things will change later on where he can be home more.

 

It appears as though you've already called it. If you are dependent on your husband for daily living, I hope you advise him of this prior to his training.

Trucking isn't a job so much as a lifestyle, and both partners have to accept it and work within its boundaries. If you become resentful and punish him for choosing to this career, you'll probably wind up miserable and/or divorced. Or, you can embrace it and use the time apart to learn new skills and gain self-confidence.

It's pretty much your choice.

 

I don't know if it's possible, but I see you are out of Chicago. If he does well in training we may have a local spot for him. It would be based out of Harvey, Ill. I am not a recruiter, I drive for the company and we will be needing two drivers, 28' trailers, local grocery,deli stores,etc.. Mon.-Fri. about 10-12 hours per day anything over 40 is time and a half. He would be considered in the Chicago market so he would probably start at $18.00 per hour.I know Rick likes to give new guys out of school a chance. That is how I got started and I love it! If not keep in touch I know of some other local positions in the Chicago area.
Take care,
Toby

 

Sounds like this #### is looking for a reason to leave her husband anyways. Maybe its a good thing so he can get rid of someone so insecure about her marriage.