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Then please inform myself and others with your almighty wisdom why its ok to skip child support.

 

I cannot make you understand when you can't comprehend what he wrote.

Have a nice day.

 

LOL

So it's ok to skip child support then? I'm not failing to comprehend. What I'm gathering from this thread is that certain people think it's ok to skip child support and go to jail and yet these are the same people who can't understand why they can't get full custody. Nothing but hypocrites.

 

Primary custody is an "award"...lmao kids are just a prize in a carnival game. Most are interested in the money..that is if u have it... My ex was and is..lol carnivals over in a few years.

 

If you can't afford the child support, you shouldn't have had the child. Your kid needs to eat before you do, get their hair cut before you do, etc. What I'm saying is that your kid comes first. You come second. You don't punish your child because you want a brand new car with a $350 monthly payment you can barely afford. You need to make the sacrifices so your kid(s) can live the life they deserve. No wonder why you can't get primary custody when you can't put your child ahead of your yourself.

It's not about your needs, or the childs mom's needs, emotional or financial. It's about your childs needs. Why do women typically get awarded primary custody? Because your typical male doesn't understand this concept.

 

I agree. The mom and the court makes it tough on the dad and the kids with little regard to them carrying on a healthy nurturing relationship. Many moms ruin great dads in this process and don't much give a hoot if they're mentally hurting their kids in the process of doing whatever they want just because they can.

 

I highly doubt that child support ever enters a mans mind when he finds the woman to have his child with. He loves and trusts her as the mother of his child and has no intention of ever leaving them and has the same impression of her, but then the weather changes on the mothers part and bammm!

What's wrong with everyone involved having their needs met within reason? This he/she comes first thing just makes no sense to me. Child support is based on parents combined incomes. Fathers aren't supposed to be the sole supporter of the childs needs, even though they often are. There's really no good reason to grill the father for having a child, it's a natural healthy part of life until the courts get involved and screw up the natural process. Every father I know works his tail off to support his family from his heart and soul, total voluntary devotion, then some court comes in and forces him to do it by the courts rules. Pretty sad.

When you separate a parent from his/her child it causes deep lifetime heartache in the parent and the child, it isn't all about money. Joint custody with the mother having primary physical custody insures the mother her child support payments. It's near impossible for the father to get primary physical custody and keep it unless the mother is institutionalized.

 

lucky he ain't in California. They take 50 percent of your net pay. Or in my case I pay 425.00 a week.

 

I've had it both ways.
First wife gave no breaks, and they hunted me down like a rabid dog.
Last wife gave the slack I needed to be able to pay support as I could.

Guess who I try (even want!) to help out more when she needs extra?

I'm paying on both fronts now, since I have a job that allows me to.

The first was in CA, but I had no problem getting my CDL even though I owe a LOT.
And I got my CDL in CA.

By the way, CA can take 50% of your gross pay - not net. Makes a big difference, especially when you are making minimum.

And what's a dad to do if the choice is to eat and live, or pay and die?
The latter serves no one.