Child support and truckers

I'm totally against making the noncustodial parent pay child support except when I hear about cases like this. What a total loser.

 

That he is. I'm told he's remarried now and she beats the #### out of him now lol.... Karma's a ##### some times

 

Oh and they have shared parenting, he just never wants the kids to come over.

 

I would pay anything to be able to get my child more.. I get her once a month cause it's 6hr drive their and back 6.. I usually do this my first day out of the truck last weekend of month.. boy it sucks but well worth our time together.

 

Glad you feel good about getting screwed by the totalitarian state. I'm not advocating to run away from responsibilities but is time for men to stand up against this unfair practices on us as a whole. I'm 24 years old, been with my gf 5 years. She's amazing but I still have doubts about signing my life away in a marriage contract. Marriage today is a total loss for men. All the laws benefit women for the most part, we get nothing. Women start 70% of no fault divorces... Usually to get alimony and/or child support (which is low-key alimony) at an unfair rate. Are you telling me your kid takes $1200 a month to be raised? Is she putting up $1200 for the kid also? She might have them full time but come on... $1200.... Or w/e the case may be.. I feel like it should be settled in a different manner, but since women have the state on their behalf we get the sheet end of the stick.

MGTOW

 

I dont understand why the custodial parent doesnt have to keep receipts for all the childs money being spent. I quess the court would have to order that but it would make clear where the money is going. I think people would be more willing to pay if they had record of where their money is going.

 

I say is mostly the unfair amount. Top it off with using it for car payments etc... And it being after taxes... BS... At least take it from the gross

 

Mr. Jackhole, you are not going to like my antics again.

Let me start with saying what I did is what I did and I am not telling anyone it is the way to handle things.

I am step parent, and at first taking on a partner and her three children was a big commitment that took me a few years to come to. But, I did, and do not regret it one bit, in fact having them in my life has be the best thing in my life. Of course there have been many challenges and stuff along the way, but it has made me grow as a person.

I knew that it was not just brining her and her children into my life, but, their father, her ex, would also be a part of the package.

I came from a home where my parents were together and stayed together so, I was not fully aware of all the struggles and conflicting emotions divorce put on kids.

Fortunately I have a diverse set of friends and talked to those who had been through it.

One Sunday we were at home waiting for him to bring the kids backs. I was in the back family room, when the door opened and the kids came in and came back to the family room and sat down. They were happy and smiling which I love to see, makes me happy when they are happy.

Shortly after my partner who was upstairs came down stairs and her ex walked in the door, and they stood their in the front living room talking. At first, it was going well, just #### chat about what he and the kids did. But then it turned, he started talking aboumuch he spent on the kids over the weekend and the child support he pays and he living her living in a fancy house, fancy clothes, no on and on..
It wasn't what he was saying that got to me, it was seeing the kids.. they were happy and smiling and then their shoulders hunched over, their heads dropped, and Sara, the youngest whipped away her tears..
No parent likes to see their children being hurt.

So, I got up and told the kids I was going to go get ice cream, got in my car and drove off. Stopped at the ATM and withdrew money. Then I waited , when I saw his car I went and got behind him.

At the next stop sign, I honked my horn then got out and went in to him. I said, clearly the child support payments and the cost of children is a burden for you so here.. and handed him cash, a couple over his child support payment.. and said, I love my family and am willing and able to provide and take care of them, so don't worry They will be provided for, and I will also take care of their healthcare, so you don't have to provide that for them, see you in two weeks.

I walked back to my car,.. he got out of his car yelling at me and calling me all sorts of names. I just old him again, that his child support was not needed, I could and gladly will provide for my family.. he went off saying they were not my family they were his.. so I said NO, you ARE the father and I will never not let you see your children and be in their lives, but I WILL not let you hurt them with your anger and grudge over having to contribute financially in their lives, You are their father, but they are my family and I can and will provide for them. Do you really think the $3000 a month you spend on child support and your children when you have them is paying for our $260,000 house, clothes, food, cars and stuff.. the kids are smart enough to know that isn't true..

It took a few months but we actually got things worked out and all have a good relationship now, which I feel is important, I know it is good for our children to have all of us at their events, sporting, musicals and in their lives.

There is a bit of irony to it now, as he met a woman who has children, he is now seeing it all from a different point of view when his girlfriend ex acts like he is supporting them.... unfortunately I don't know if they will be able to get it to work out as nicely as we did... but for the children I will always hope so.

 

Amen!

 

They base it off of both parents income. And in NC the parent receiving support can only ask for raise once every 3 years.