My husband's new career and his trainer

uncleal13 · Aug 28, 2019

Trucking is the only occupation that seems to be in the dark ages when it comes to workplace abusive behaviour.

jengoode · Aug 28, 2019

SoCalRed said: ↑

I would guess Werner going with Swift would be way too easy.
Seriously post the name of the company
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I cant name the company but it isnt either of those.

SoCalRed · Aug 28, 2019

Well hopefully he gets his own truck in a few days and forgets about this guy.
If he has to train for two more weeks then it is important to get a new trainer. No need to go trough this.
Good luck to both of you.

TravR1 · Aug 28, 2019

One thing trucking did for me was grow me a thicker skin. My trainer wasn't that bad at all. He had a quirk of storing his pee behind his driver's seat. But other than that he was alright. My driving instructor in school was like a drill Sargent though.

Reading some of these stories about trainers, I don't understand how people can treat others that way. Yelling at someone is one thing. But insulting and directly calling someone names? I just don't get it. Even on my worst day I'd never.

Your hubby is on track to getting his own truck and his training experience will be all but a distant memory. Maybe he should just put his head down and get through it. Calling the training department, reporting him will only cost you and him time and money, then he'll get put with another guy probably similar to the last.

Training is only a very small fraction of what his career is going to be. And if he works hard and has a good attitude, it will probably be lucrative. Don't let words get in the way. Its just air doesn't mean anything ultimately, just shows the trainer's insecurity.

Most of what he learns about driving a truck will be done over the coming months on his own He just needs to remember when backing to get out and check himself, be patient, take it slow and know the engine brake. He can come here to these forums and read in the New Driver's section like I do and learn a great deal more. If he has questions he can create a thread and get good answers.

jengoode · Aug 28, 2019

TravR1 said: ↑

One thing trucking did for me was grow me a thicker skin. My trainer wasn't that bad at all. He had a quirk of storing his pee behind his driver's seat. But other than that he was alright. My driving instructor in school was like a drill Sargent though.

Reading some of these stories about trainers, I don't understand how people can treat others that way. Yelling at someone is one thing. But insulting and directly calling someone names? I just don't get it. Even on my worst day I'd never.

Your hubby is on track to getting his own truck and his training experience will be all but a distant memory. Maybe he should just put his head down and get through it. Calling the training department, reporting him will only cost you and him time and money, then he'll get put with another guy probably similar to the last.

Training is only a very small fraction of what his career is going to be. And if he works hard and has a good attitude, it will probably be lucrative. Don't let words get in the way. Its just air doesn't mean anything ultimately, just shows the trainer's insecurity.

Most of what he learns about driving a truck will be done over the coming months on his own He just needs to remember when backing to get out and check himself, be patient, take it slow and know the engine brake. He can come here to these forums and read in the New Driver's section like I do and learn a great deal more. If he has questions he can create a thread and get good answers.
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Yes! This! I have told him a lot of the same thing....they are only words...sticks and stones....words will only hurt if you let them. He agrees and says when you hear insults 24/7 and he is the only person around you for days you do start to believe in it....I guess....that's what my husband says.

And this whole forum is great. I told him last night that I read through it a lot at night while I'm falling asleep trying to understand all of the rules and what he is doing so he doesnt have to constantly repeat himself and also....just so I know. I tell him that my dad and him are so much alike....my dad was a ship captain with super tankers....gone 2 months, home 2 months. I have told him....he navigated the seas, you navigate the highways. Lol!

And i think he knows the training is for a short time comparatively speaking so he was trying to make the best of it....its just really wearing him down. And I can hear it in his voice and I'm not comfortable with that. He is always our rock....through whatever happens in our little world I always tell him he is like a raging bull....fierce strong and good or bad he is always there to make a situation right for us. I just wanted to return the favor if I could... but I cant so I will stand down and just let him vent to me. What has really told me that this situation is so over the top bad is that my husband can be really abrasive. I often have to remind him that I'm not one of the boys....I'm a girl and sometimes his words are harsh with me and hurt my feelings....so you can imagine that this whole thing totally surprised me. And I am very proud of him that he has taken the gentlemen way with this....his usual attitude is that he wouldve picked a fight with him by now. He has learned a lot of restraint. He could take the yelling and some name calling.....but the constant insults and bringing me into it was just one step too far for my husband.

MichaelSemiTruckDriver · Aug 28, 2019

So many things to say, but I'll "try" to keep it simple.

First off, there is no law in any realm of things that states any individual must tolerate unfair, and aggressive behavior. Not saying your husband is or not man enough to anything. What I am saying is this level of unprofessionalism from the viewpoint of a trainer, is intolerable.

Now I may get a bunch of crap comments for what I'm about to say. But, no worries, I'll say it. If not, good deal. I would call the trainers bluff on kicking me out of the truck. I would, seriously. Then if the trainer really did kick me out of the truck, I would then call the company and make it be known that not only did the trainer abandon me where ever, but that I also have audio recordings of all these ridiculous notions being stated to me. Now this is the professional way of handling this type of individual.

The non professional method is to collapse ones mouth into via ones fist. But can guarantee handcuffs depending on which state this occurs in.

If your husband is abandoned the co may be liable for various different things, such as safety, hotel, travel arrangements, the list goes on and on. If your husband abandons training, then your husband is liable for all of these things from a legal aspect. Disclaimer, I'm not an attorney. Seek council.

This is not about if anyone appears like blah blah blah. This is about removing a trainer that is not fit to be a trainer. The longer this individual is a trainer for, the longer a larger number of people may not recieve the proper training.

Make sense?

Hope this helps.

Wespipes · Aug 28, 2019

Tell your husband to punch him straight in the jaw. Never talk about a man's wife. Hell dont disrespect a man and not expect to get punched

jengoode · Aug 28, 2019

MichaelSemiTruckDriver said: ↑

So many things to say, but I'll "try" to keep it simple.

First off, there is no law in any realm of things that states any individual must tolerate unfair, and aggressive behavior. Not saying your husband is or not man enough to anything. What I am saying is this level of unprofessionalism from the viewpoint of a trainer, is intolerable.

Now I may get a bunch of crap comments for what I'm about to say. But, no worries, I'll say it. If not, good deal. I would call the trainers bluff on kicking me out of the truck. I would, seriously. Then if the trainer really did kick me out of the truck, I would then call the company and make it be known that not only did the trainer abandon me where ever, but that I also have audio recordings of all these ridiculous notions being stated to me. Now this is the professional way of handling this type of individual.

The non professional method is to collapse ones mouth into via ones fist. But can guarantee handcuffs depending on which state this occurs in.

If your husband is abandoned the co may be liable for various different things, such as safety, hotel, travel arrangements, the list goes on and on. If your husband abandons training, then your husband is liable for all of these things from a legal aspect. Disclaimer, I'm not an attorney. Seek council.

This is not about if anyone appears like blah blah blah. This is about removing a trainer that is not fit to be a trainer. The longer this individual is a trainer for, the longer a larger number of people may not recieve the proper training.

Make sense?

Hope this helps.
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Yes, it makes total sense and a lot of what we have already discussed privately. And the video footage and audio inside the truck is key to taking this guy out of the training sector. Clearly he doesnt like it...he just wants the extra money he gets for doing it. And he said to my husband the other day about something he said my husband did wrong and the trainer said....you know the company can see it all on tape...I should alert them to look at the footage. My husband quickly replied back....yes, tell them to review all of the tape, i have no problem with that. He got really quiet after that.

My husband writes every day on situations that occur so when training is over and he has to review this guy he has plenty of material to offer. It is a bad situation right now but ultimately my husband will have the last word.

jengoode · Aug 28, 2019

MichaelSemiTruckDriver said: ↑

So many things to say, but I'll "try" to keep it simple.

First off, there is no law in any realm of things that states any individual must tolerate unfair, and aggressive behavior. Not saying your husband is or not man enough to anything. What I am saying is this level of unprofessionalism from the viewpoint of a trainer, is intolerable.

Now I may get a bunch of crap comments for what I'm about to say. But, no worries, I'll say it. If not, good deal. I would call the trainers bluff on kicking me out of the truck. I would, seriously. Then if the trainer really did kick me out of the truck, I would then call the company and make it be known that not only did the trainer abandon me where ever, but that I also have audio recordings of all these ridiculous notions being stated to me. Now this is the professional way of handling this type of individual.

The non professional method is to collapse ones mouth into via ones fist. But can guarantee handcuffs depending on which state this occurs in.

If your husband is abandoned the co may be liable for various different things, such as safety, hotel, travel arrangements, the list goes on and on. If your husband abandons training, then your husband is liable for all of these things from a legal aspect. Disclaimer, I'm not an attorney. Seek council.

This is not about if anyone appears like blah blah blah. This is about removing a trainer that is not fit to be a trainer. The longer this individual is a trainer for, the longer a larger number of people may not recieve the proper training.

Make sense?

Hope this helps.
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And the guy has already admitted that if he kicks my husband out of the truck he will lose his job but he says it would be worth it....he also hasnt done it yet....so apparently it isnt as worth it. Which is what I tell my husband....this guy is all talk and no action....he cant back up anything he says which makes him worthless in my eyes.

jengoode · Aug 28, 2019

Good news! The corporate office called them this morning and they are trading off trailers in Nashville with their load (they were en route to Georgia) and heading back to the corporate office. This trainer has a new trainee....god bless this poor man's soul. My husband will be testing out and hopefully in his own truck by the end of the weekend....and coming home next weekend!!! Thanks everyone for the replies last night! I told him what I did and where to find this post so he could read it and get a little encouragement.

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