Suicide by truck

Discussion in 'Trucking Accidents' started by Shyannesierra, Jul 10, 2020.

  1. Shyannesierra

    Shyannesierra Bobtail Member

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    Didn't realize this was a thing until it happened to us. Now we are hearing more and more people it has happened to. My husband has been driving for 6 years and was even a trainer. Great safety record, but sometimes, things are out of your control.
    On the morning of May 20, 2020, Bobby was driving on I-215 in San Bernadino, CA. It was 5:38 am and the sun wasn't even up yet. He was in the right lane traveling 54 mph when suddenly a pedestrian appeared out of nowhere and began to sprint towards the truck. Bobby reacted swiftly and swerved to the left, but the runner adjusted his trajectory and actually made eye contact with him before jumping in front of the truck. He 100% knew what he was doing. (His FB confirmed his plans) Bobby felt the impact and stopped in the middle of the highway without losing control. He took a deep breath and rushed to where the guy's lifeless body lay crumbled on the side of the road. Oddly, there was no blood, just horrible gashes and everything was mangled. We later learned that he was flipped around the wheel well and up into the engine where his shoes were found. Bobby stood over his body just screaming for about 10 minutes and didn't even know it was him screaming until someone pulled him away saying, "This isn't helping anything, man". He was in shock so they completed the accident investigation and then took him to a hotel and dropped him off per his company's instructions. They paid for him to stay for 3 nights so he could "get his head together and drive home". But once in the hotel room, Bobby went outside to smoke a cigarette and try to gather his wits. While he was outside, his room was robbed and now he was stuck in Los Angeles with no ID, no money, no cards, no help. His truck was ruined and would not be driveable for some time so I jumped in my car and drove straight through 1000 miles to get him and bring him home.

    Turns out, this happens pretty often there, the cop even said they call them "froggers". If it were deer, they would put up signs. This is 1000 times worse than hitting a deer. Bobby can't even drive the family car now because the last time he was behind the wheel, someone died. He has been getting therapy since, but still so despondent himself, that he just spent 10 days in the hospital trying to get help. Statistics show that 90% never return to driving and many commit suicide themselves.

    This has snowballed into an avalanche of catastrophe for our family. Since Bobby obviously cannot return to work, I am forced to find a job to support us. I am 60 and not having much luck in a pandemic finding a job. Also, I babysit for my grandchildren so I can no longer do that. My daughter, without a babysitter, will have to quit her job now and they will soon be homeless without her income as well.

    I have found a job but it starts in August and I won't get a paycheck til Sept 1st. We have sold almost all of our belongings and moved into a campsite for the time being just to survive. We are barely hanging on. If you can help or know of any resources, please let us know. Thank you for reading our story.
     
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  3. Kyle G.

    Kyle G. Road Train Member

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    That’s a sad situation. I can’t imagine being in your husband’s shoes.

    We can argue all day long about suicide, as far as if or when it is acceptable. But to essentially bring another guy (and his family) down with you is just a terrible thing to do and a cowardly way to go out.

    My thoughts go out to you... I sure hope your lives go back to normal soon.

    If I could think of any useful advice at all, it would be maybe your husband could look into driving a yard truck (also called a yard jockey, hostler, etc), basically just working at some warehouse moving trailers around, in and out of docks, etc. It would keep him away from the stress of being on the road, but still allow him to earn a living while utilizing his skills.

    Good luck!
     
  4. buddyd157

    buddyd157 Road Train Member

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    so sorry for his problems. he needs professional help, to get him thru this.

    out here we have the United Way, if they are out there, contact them. also the Salvation Army, may be able to offer guidance.

    United Way Worldwide
     
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    D.Tibbitt Road Train Member

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    mpd240 Road Train Member

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    Bobby at 60. Don’t know any 70 year old Bobby’s. How about a link to a news article.
     
  8. Opus

    Opus Road Train Member

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    Plenty fishy. Only made it through half way.
    Oops....missed the go fund me delete.
    Way more fishy now
     
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  9. Mid-May Trucker

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  10. Shyannesierra

    Shyannesierra Bobtail Member

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  11. Shyannesierra

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    I'm thinking he would be great as a dispatcher. He used to be a lease operator for Palmer but after we paid $1,000. A week for two years, they laid him off and kept the truck. But he was great at figuring out loads and timing, etc.
     
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