Mentoring

Here's a few things to reflect upon;
• Clear communication.
• Acting as a role model.
• Adaptability and flexibility.
• Preparation.
• Self reflection.
• Goal setting.
• Life-long learning.

 

I’m a very patient person, an extrovert, have a sense of humor and try to crack jokes and be relatable and friendly when I see people-especially students-are nervous. I’m a maternal sort of gal, not wanting to hover and keep a student from being able to try things, but more the sort to be present and guiding gently. I give them a chance to try, and then give them hints if they need it. I help them try different ways of doing things and tell them to find their way that works for them to remember. For example, when counting that minute on the 1, 2, 3 air brake test, I made a fella laugh when he was counting too fast. I said no, no, no. Like this. “One mother trucker, two mother trucker”. He never forget it. We’re in automatic trucks now, so while it is easier, it comes with goods and bads. I learned on a manual, and some things I miss about it, and some I don’t.

 

I know that that is a common frustration for new students. I love teaching, and not every person learns the same way. You might laugh at this, but my own mentor tried all sorts of methods with me. I remember one time, he had me stand out in front of the truck and we each had a walkie talkie. I had no idea what he was doing at first. Then he keyed up and said ok Nicole, I have no idea how to back into this spot. I need you to walk me through it. Help me. I just stood there blinking for a moment, and then smiled. He corrected me a couple of times. Told me to watch his trailer, which way the steers were turned and the effect it would have. Another time, to help me learn to back, he pulled out a little hot wheels tractor trailer, set up a parking space on the dinner table at the truck stop we were having dinner at, and told a dill weed beside us that was laughing to can it. I’ll never forget how he helped me, was patient with me, got creative to educate me, and stood up for me when that jerk felt the need to mock us both.

 

I’m new to the idea of being a mentor admittedly, but I think if I can be gentle, patient, consistent, approachable, and trusted by my students, they will feel comfortable with me. I feel that mutual courtesy and professionalism is important, and that respect is earned. I also think that progress deserves to be acknowledged and praised, and not in a condescending manner. I’m also the sort to make sure my student isn’t going without. If they need food, I’ll cook for us both. Or basic hygiene items, I don’t mind taking care of them. Their safety and success is my responsibility. I want to set them up to hit the ground running confidently, ready to take on the world.

 

I feel that it’s not enough to be a great driver to mentor someone. Not everyone is cut out to be a teacher. It takes a gentle spirit, patience, dedication, and nerves of steel at times. I’m also the type to give a reward when they pass. My own mentor gave me my first Rand McNally motor carriers atlas with a little card telling me how proud he was of me. I still remember the way that made me feel. I’d love to pay it forward.

 

I agree completely. Nobody likes to be yelled at or belittled. I want my students to feel safe and comfortable with me. I’m not here to lord over them and worsen the anxiety they surely already feel. I look at my role as a parental figure in a sense. My job is to nurture, guide, correct, listen, be listened to, assist, and encourage.

 

These are some really great suggestions! I agree with all of them.

 

When I was in law enforcement part of duties as a sergeant was field training. One thing I did while training was taught self confidence. A person who is second guessing their every decision is a person who will likely make the wrong one simply because they're under pressure. Tunnel vision is real and happens to everyone. Also, make sure they understand that they can ask you anything at all about the job. Even if the question sounds so dumb or self explanatory, answer it. I always made it a point to let them know my phone was on 24/7/365 and I could be reached at any time, seemed to bring more reassurance to them

 

LMFAO. That's me after buying fuel every day!

(I have a ten speed, but you get the idea)

 

My boss told the story of learning to drive the B model with two sticks when the one owner told him to get in and then climbed in the right hand seat and used a tire billy on his knuckles every time he ground some...by the end ofthe day he was an expert...