Trouble on the homefront while you are away...

Ah okay. Well that's better than a lot of folks!

 

Trust me it's a tough thing to do but pick what's worth worrying over and what can honestly be put on the back burner. If everyone is telling you to go then pack your bags and head on out...

 

the truth is no matter what the situation you have no control over any of it
The illusion of control is where we get our panties all in a wad
if my brother is going to prison he is going whether I am there or not
Unless I am the surgeon I can't help my relative in the hospital
one more person sitting in the waiting room is all it is
I have a son addicted to heroin who isn't allowed in the house
because i will send him to rehab but he cant stay with me
His sister takes him in hates his addiction and resents me because I don't fix it
I am not that powerful nor are any of you

 

I know you are right, Cranky Yankee. Best thing I can do is move on with my life. At least they won't have to worry about me when I'm at work.

 

Boy the struggles in life we go through.

 

One thing I've learned in life. If everyone pilled all their problems up in the middle of the room... I would scramble to find mine and get them back... You hear what others are dealing with and my problems all of a sudden don't look so bad...
Someone else always got it worse....
Carrying the burden for everyone else will wear you out fast.... You can't fix it, or fix them.
I like what Cranky Yankee said

 

until i was 48 i was sure I could fix everything
that i was braver stronger blah blah blah
then when life had beat me up enough
I went to my 4th rehab and been clean and sober 14 years now
and everyday i find out how little I am in charge of
some days not even myself
much easier today not being "Large and in charge"

 

Crap happens whether you are at home to be there in case of an emergency or not. We cannot be every place every time. If something is/was destined to happen, it'll happen, it's the way it is.
You have to concentrate on what is best for you, not what someone else says is best. you have to live your own life, or forever be locked into a rut, that'll make you rue the day you were born.

as a soon to be senior myself, (or maybe I m now) only a part of me can agree with you about being pissed off. If my kids want to take care of me, I say have at it. This means to me, no more snow shoveling, no more lawn care, no more painting my house, and a few other things that are not necessarily time consuming , but what can be heavy work at my advancing age. As I'll tend to the garden, and get online to harass people.

Usually it is the daughters that take care of dad. sons take care of mom. So hey, I'll gladly sit back these tired old bones and let someone else take over the harder tasks of life. I'll take FULL advantage while I still can of life an when the kids say they want to do something , then go ahead.

I think that they think I got a lot of money and I'm gonna give it all to them in my will.

What they really do not know is, I'm spending my money NOW since I earned it, they can earn their own money, the old fashion way like I had too.

I think in the "pissed off dept", my kids will be the one's pissed off when the lawyer reads my will, and they finally see that they get nothing...!!!!

 

You don't want to get a criminal record like your sibling. It will screw up your future. It sounds like a powder keg. The closer to jail/prison time the more volatile it will be. Nothing to lose, feeling sorry for ones self, take other people down with him. Maybe your sibling will get a DUI and hit a tree and therefore get locked up with out killing anyone.

Change the locks on grand parents door and kick him/her out.

 

Well, it's time for me to get to work then!

I can't thank you folks enough. Sometimes it feels like our family are the only ones who have to deal with this kinda thing. It helps knowing there are others out there, and that they lead happy, successful lives, and that's what I'm going to do!