A woman's questions

Discussion in 'Questions From New Drivers' started by Blueeyes Searching, Nov 18, 2020.

  1. #wishfulthinking

    #wishfulthinking Light Load Member

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    Don't worry about her, just concentrate on yourself. If this situation isn't working for you, then do something to change it. No one will have your best interests at heart better than you will.

    You don't necessarily need to throw her under the bus, just go to the company and let them know that you are not comfortable with your current trainer. If they try to pry as to the reasons why, just tell them it's personal.

    You could try having an adult conversation with your "friend" about these issues, but it sounds like she has her own interests at heart here and not yours so it may fall on deaf ears, could be worth a try though, just a thought.
     
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  3. MTN Boomer

    MTN Boomer Road Train Member

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    How do you know what she is doing wrong if you just started ,old people can be grochy and hard to get along with, I would wait before you narc on her.
     
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  4. FozzyNOK

    FozzyNOK Road Train Member

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    I tell all newbies that unless the trainer is doing something really vulgar, insane or unsafe, do all you can to put up with it and get out on your own! The issue with trainers is that there are a lot worse out there,,, more worse than better. You know what you need to do because you were trained on what to do legally and safely. When you get rid of the trainers, you will be the captain of the ship and can do it the way you know it's supposed to be done. Right now, you are getting comfortable with the truck and learning procedures. Learn all you can and READ the company "bible" from front to back and learn everything you can. Most companies have reviews for trainers.. I always suggested that my student's run daily journals to jot down things.. good things, bad things etc etc.. When you get the chance to fill out the review, be honest and have the journals to look back on. Some things that seem really bad now, may turn out to be something that you can just not worry about.. but good trainers are MADE.. not born. There are a lot of trainers out there that think they are perfect.. they need to be told the things that are bothering their students
     
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  5. SteveScott

    SteveScott Road Train Member

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    Many drivers look back at their training with another driver as the most miserable time they ever had as a driver. Having said that, you sound like you got the double whammy. How exactly is she losing money training you, was she driving teams with her husband and can't with you? I'm guess that she's getting a referral fee for bringing you in the company, and will probably get a few cents for every mile you drive after the training is over. I wouldn't report any of her activities to the company unless they have an impact on you. Otherwise, let her sink her own ship. If you can put up with her for a while longer, just get it over with so you can be out on your own.
     
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  6. skellr

    skellr Road Train Member

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    People tend to go into training for the wrong reasons... $$. Maybe she thinks she is going to run the truck as an experienced team and make the same money as she was before. Not going to happen training.

    Yeah, typically training really sucks. It gets better and you will learn more, about actual driving, when you go solo.

    Hang in there.
     
  7. MACK E-6

    MACK E-6 Moderator Staff Member

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    If that’s how this “friend” is acting, than IMHO she is no friend.

    This sounds like a case of somebody wanting extra money to be a trainer, and not wanting to actually do the job.

    How much longer are the two of you supposed to be cooped up together?
     
  8. buddyd157

    buddyd157 Road Train Member

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    well apparently SHE SCREWED up, in thinking that you would be a class A fully trained, seasoned driver right out of school.

    just ain't gonna happen. you have a learning curve, THAT SHE WENT THRU some time ago, and has totally forgotten that.

    request a new trainer.

    to me, from what you say, she is no friend at all.

    otherwise, she'd be WORKING WITH YOU NOT AGAINST YOU.
     
  9. Qbf594

    Qbf594 Road Train Member

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    My opinion your friend is a serious beyatch. As said here, she was a newbie once, she didn't forget, she's willfully ignoring those memories.
    Hubby retires...was he who trained her? The she might have no idea how to actually professionally train. He retires but they're so broke she's taking it on you? That makes no sense.
    How does one recruit a friend, make training pay off that friend, all the while blaming that friend for anything???? You're TRAINING... as in, you aren't at the point of being blamed for stuff yet...if she doesn't like where your skill set is at...she's the responsible party...
    I had the only awesome trainer out there but that company was hateful lol...so. I'd say tough it out until you get out. Or if you think you'll lose your sht...if you're going to wreck. Or commit murder. Or turn to drugs and prostitution.. lol...ask for a new trainer. Probably won't be better but it'll be different and likely get you to the end of the training phase
     
  10. flybynight12

    flybynight12 Medium Load Member

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    Over time it passes my first year was pretty rough I thought I made a huge mistake in life but after some time it clicked and I started to like it and find my niche. Ya your friend/trainer dosent like it but they are the one that took you on board you didn't hold a gun to her husband's head and force him to retire tell her to grow up or you will move on you dont need cry babies on the truck with you
     
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  11. bigguns

    bigguns Road Train Member

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    Get out of this situation. You need to have your head in the game. They is too much for you to take in and learn at this point in time. You are a danger to yourself, your “friend” and anyone else on the road.
     
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