BBB got a new toy

Yup, see it everyday. Bought my wife a nice new SUV few weeks ago to haul our 2 kids around in, one of my employees made a sarcastic "must be nice" comment, lol. I said yes it is very nice, thank you! Work as much as I do and someday you may have one too!

 

If I ever had an opportunity (and desire) to go back to a college, I'd really like to study psychology. Human behaviors, including my own, really fascinate me.

I'm inclined not to label "jealous" by itself as human nature. Everyone has desire to have more/go higher/go faster/et al. That's universal, and is therefore human nature. I think jealous/resentment is more of resultant emotion when someone thinks he/she cannot attain what others have and/or achieved. There are also people who naturally have different reaction and be able to use others' success as aspiration/motivation to try harder.

Human nature is something no amount of oppression and regulation can change. Nothing can change people's aspiration for better things (see how smart people find loop holes). But the reaction can be changed by internal and/or external influence. Some change on their own as they age from their life experiences. Education/mentor ship/guidance have effect as well, good or bad.

I don't disagree there's a good chance Bill, or any successful business owners, will run into one of those jealously types sooner or later. They are out there (Occupy Wall street types being prime example, who've been indoctrinated by socialist teachers). But I think a competent person could change people's reactions. The key is leading them to think they came to the right conclusion on their own, rather than simply telling them what's right and wrong.

As for me, I try to keep my mouth shut and study what successful people are doing, cause I too want some toys. Maybe not a motorcycle - I'll probably kill myself trying to pull a wheelie or something. Admittedly, I don't think I'm cut out to reach Bill's level of business savvy but it won't stop me from trying nonetheless.

Apology for going off tangent. I like discussing people's behaviors.

Excellent answer!

 

I view jealousy a more of a status thing to most people. Their physcee has them to believe that they are "better" than the other person or at a higher "social level". So when another person attains something they themselves have a want for, or cannot attain themselves, they show the jealous emotion. They now feel "not as good" or "below" that person.

I took clinical psychology and human behavior systems at ASU and I still love discussing it all.

 

How about "Inferiority Complex" LOL???

My mother in law is the Queen of jealousy. Will say anything to try and take down other people she sees as better off than she is, including her own daughters. She is the first mother I have known to be jealous that her kids are more successful than she is (my wife being one of them!)

I want my kids to have it better than I do in every way.

Sorry for the rant.........

 

This, just more simple. Achievement vs. entitlement. There's folks that covet what someone else has and think "how can I get one like that." Others think "when will I get mine?"

The people in the latter group are never around when the ones in the former group are making the sacrifices to enable them to achieve and get those things.

 

Nice to know I am not the only 1 with relatives / friends / employees who sarcastically say " MUST BE NICE " if someone in the family gets something or trys to better themselves.

 

It's a character issue. I'd tend to believe someone envious of another's possessions or achievements would also more than likely be the type to blame everyone else for their own failings. And these sort of traits won't bode well for a person running any kind of business.

 

exactly my point. frankly there is no question of if, it is when it will happen, bill.

i understand your thoughts exactly, when i ran 8 trucks 2 of my own and 6 lease, i was the only guy in existence ever that would reimburse my o/o's for a motel room every night and paid them on average 65 to 70 cents more a mile (2.40 vs 1.75) .

i did this by being honest in the modular and mobile home hauling, most companies in that line pad the back end( charging say 200 bucks for a ga permit instead of 32.50) they will pad that and the driver doesnt get a cut, thus they lower the linehaul, but the load costs the customer the same. i never did that.

if i missed fed-ex or ups to mail out settlements checks, i would drive all over south ga to hand deliver settlements, no waiting til next day.

whenever i went anywhere i always carried my portable office( fax , laptop, aircard, etc etc) i could fax and receive permits or anything no matter where i went.

never left a guy hanging.

but let me buy my kid a new race kart and go racing ( we ran the national kart racing circuit) and the remarks about how i went racing while they worked crap would start.



it wasnt that it made me mad, it was more of a disappointment. if i had paid like everyone else i honestly could have retired in early 09 and went fishing on a permanent basis.

after the economy went south and all the plants closed, i built my middle son a house and then began my one truck operation one again as i had started out.

it is so relaxing to just worry about myself now. i know it may be a jaded outlook, but the reason many company owners are perceived as peckerheads is because they have to be to tolerate it.

after you reel in a few abandoned trucks, etc etc etc. it is a result.

i know you are just getting into this and growing, and i truly hope you never encounter any of what i describe, i really do.

but the odds are it will happen and often, and likely from the ones you would never believe would do it.