26 Years old and single

being married to a trucker is a hard lifestyle...you get to be the mom and the dad...not that there arent some great dads that are truckers...but they simply arent there much...

i am married to a trucker...but i am also one myself....so i wasnt at home while he was at work..we were at work together.....

you made some valid points....but its still a hard way of life for all involved...

 

I think that it has to be a certain type of woman, who will put up with you being away, not every girl can do it.

 

I personally believe you'd be better off learning all you can about driving a truck before you even think of a relationship. That is of course if one doesn't just appear and works out well for you. As you learn it's a tough life for both parties involved. It's like being in the military and getting deployed all the time. It takes a special type of woman to make it work just like it take a special type of driver to make a career out of trucking.

 

Dont worry about women. You will meet them.

There are women that look for military men. There are women that look for police officers. They advertise on dating sites, they hang out at the bars near the base or cop bars. They understand what it means (the dangers, the moving around, not being home every night) and can make it work. Same goes for trucking. 90% of the guys in specialized and heavyhaul are ex-lawmen and ex-military (just about everyone I know in the OSOW business was a sworn officer or military). There are quite a few women who understand what we do, the dangers, and the time involved. You will meet some.

But right now, dont let that be your primary focus.

Right now, your focus should be on becoming good at what you do, and building up your bank account.

 

your 1st problem is asking about "women" as if they are a single classification. stereotype all you want, but ive yet to meet two that have exactly the same values, desires, needs, etc. that being said, of course its harder to have a relationship, especially one thats not already established, with someone while being gone for weeks at a time and home for only days at a time. nothing,however, is impossible. and keep in mind that not everyone STAYS in otr to remain in the trucking industry. after a bit of experience (6 months-2 years) you have choices. i suggest that if one of your goals is finding a woman to settle down with and make babies, you use the next year (give or take) to thoroughly explore what the industry has to offer. is money a primary goal? maybe o/o is for you. is a steady paycheck and consistent hometime what appeals to you? foodservice warehouses offer 2-3 days home per week, regional or dedicated offer consistency, oil delivery, etc etc etc. or does the open road call you to remain in the nomadic existence of otr? there are literally hundreds of ways to make a decent living at this. dont just do your job and go to sleep. use your time to find out all you can about the ones that truly interest you, so you can make a somewhat informed decision when the time is right.
oh, and while you make a somewhat valid point comparing truckers' life to being away in a foreign country, it left a bit of a bad taste in my mouth, and may truly offend some veterans. careful about how you compare the two.

 

Great post Triple Six, LOL, i was in the military and law enforcement the entire time of my adult working life..since 18 years old. I have no idea why this occupation appeals to me so much but it does. I have been away from law enforcement since last march and really do not miss it a bit. I liked the people but 26 years of dead bodies, etc..on a regular basis was enough.

I also want to way in on this thread a little bit. I was married when I was at the end of my military guard service and already fully employed in law enforcement. The marriage lasted 14 years and to be honest the last half of it was really not that great. Law enforcement took a lot of time and paid a good wage. My ex enjoyed the money but it got to the point where she (or should I say we) couldn't handle the pressure of the hours, occupation demands etc. Divorce is an easy thing today. I think the first it was brought up she was under the spell of a girlfriend (also divorced) that told her about all the freedom she deserved. We did try to work it out but I can tell you once that divorce word comes up in a marriage, the game board entirely changes or at least it did for me. With trust out the window and no pressure from society to work it out, going the divorce route is very simple and seems to be the ultimate solution. I think the truth is that the courts and attorneys make their monies and the parties end up going their own path which typically is less efficient than a team concept. For instance now I do my own laundry, cook, etc... and she fixed or figures out or pays to have some of the traditional male jobs taken care of in her life. We moved apart and have very little contact anymore, if any. After my divorce I ended up in a relationship with an RN. She was a great girl but her occupation too, was very stressful and hectic and ultimately this ended up coming to end after 4 years, thankfully no marriage. It's been a little over 2 years now. I have not had a steady girlfriend since. I have a ton of great girls who are friends, and I still go out, but I am really stand offish now when it comes to the ladies. I treat them all with respect, but I think I know better than to get myself into a mess again. I suppose that someday, something may happen again but I have a very high bar to get over before I go there again.

I'm gonna say stay away from the marriage or super serious girlfriend until you know where you are going for sure in life. Another thing, in my experience girls do have a huge desire to have children. If you get there, that really changes the situation, especially if you get into rough times or a divorce, oh what a mess that can be.

Do not be peer pressured into a relationship and if you cannot avoid it, be sure to do your research about divorce, etc, before hand, so you know how all this stuff works. When divorce first came up in my marriage a guy friend of mine took me out to lunch and told me to take a look at the adults in the restaurant. He told me that divorce was not that big of a deal and about half the people I saw were divorced or had been divorced.

So anyway, just be careful with your relationships and treat them with respect. If the relationship is more important than your career or money you will have to make sacrifices somewhere to make sure it works out. Also, there is nothing wrong with being single. A really nice thing about it is that no one tells you what to do with your free time, there is also no jealously. I can go out to dinner or talk, hangout, facebook, whatever with anyone I want...when I was married I did not have 100% freedom and correctly so.

i wish you the best with it.