Back Child Support and Passports

No doubt the system needs reform. My neighbour had brain surgery 8 mo's ago (tumor), he's now on disability, he went to court and got 50/50 joint custody and STILL has to pay $800/mo child support. He'll be losing his home shortly.

One of the students in my CDL class had been layed off since last Sept. He went to court to ask for a reduction. The judge RAISED it to $1350./mo, on unemployment income!!! He also lost his house.

On the other hand, I have custody of my grandson (3 y/o). The dead beat father didn't pay a dime for the 1st 2 yrs. I threatened court and now receive $75.00/wk. Daycare cost me $125.00/wk, not to mention the rest of the cost related to raising a child. If I take him to court, he's sure to go to jail as he owes a lg sum for his 1st child w/ another woman that he never paid for.

Because of his 1st child back support, he has lost his driver's license, passport, can not register vehicles, can not be issued any kind of business permits. His main purpose in life is to make money under the table so he doesn't have to pay in, and he now makes a lot of $ that way, all off the books.

Going to jail would not do me any good, so I don't pursue it in the court.

 

OP, you sound like a decent father who's doing the right thing. My only advice is, BEFORE spending any time or money to a CDL school, contact your local DMV to make sure they will issue you the license.

 

So then you make your children suffer? By skipping child support, you're no better than she is. If she's honestly doing all of this, take her to court. Skipping child support isn't helping your cause one bit.

 

Who said I am skipping child support?

Who said she hasn't been hauled back to court?

YOU are putting things in place that don't exist. Plain and simply, making assumptions and judgments with no right to.

 

You responded to a post that wasn't directed to you.

 

Your arrogance on the matter is a disgust to any non-custodial parent and it's all our concerns.

Because of misunderstandings, legal business practice and the billions spent on divorce in this industry, the true welfare of kinds is never truly in it's interest.

 

Did you read the post I responded too? You are taking the correct course of action. The member I replied to didn't.

 

And yet you call me arrogant. The interest of the children are always in mind. Why is it hard for you and others here to obtain full custody? Because you're a OTR driver who's rarely home to raise your kids. There's more to a custody battle than financial obligations. You need to be there to raise your kids as well.

 

I pay my child support and have passed the TSA Haz mat checks 2 times now..

My issue is back support since my orginating court is Oregon and I live in Alabama... It takes time to make the changes (up to a year) and my pay does not reflect that delay... It goes down and to get a updated order I have to fight and still pay what they want (but can't) so I go into the hole...

I think I am 11K in the hole right now, and my last one is about to turn 20 in Oct... They still want support for her as the court still has not heard the case in over a year.

 

Bull...

You have ZERO grasp of the reality of HOW a non-custodial parent can be slaughtered financially, morally, emotionally and psychologically and that's BEFORE a decree is even made.

Parasitic lawyer files for divorce and for child support. The DAY the support case is filed is THE DAY that support is now begun to accrue. Not next week, not next month, not next year. THAT DAY. No due process or hearing or anything. Just filed.

It now becomes a SECOND court case to the divorce/dissolution case or whatever the stupid legal community now wants to call it. So a parent no longer is fighting one, but TWO court cases with lawyers on both.

Motion for continuance, motion for discovery, motion for whatever is filed one after another. 1 month, 3 months, 6 months go buy. Ex-spouses lawyer finally submits a demand for payment of a selected amount for child support. "Just until it's determined." Yeah right. That "selected amount" after a couple more motions for continuance suddenly becomes the declared amount of child support in the decree. That's when you realize that "the lawyer" went outside of the guidelines and selected an amount that the client determined based on whatever reason. As much vindictive as anything.

Now the non-custodial parent is stuck with an unrealistic child support as well as 8-18 MONTHS behind. That right there can make you $8000-18000 or more behind in child support and you JUST received the support decree in the mail. You haven't even MADE it to month one of the child support obligation.

And you are suddenly labeling that parent a deadbeat? or uncaring of their children? Flash forward another 6 months, vindictive mother suddenly wants ALL $18,000 owed her, files a motion with the court again....

Motion granted, father suddenly is in jail for support arrears, looses CDL, registration on vehicles and anything else the court can take.

Tell me there is justice in the legal community when it comes to kids and tell me THAT is in the best interest of the children.