Child Support?

Let me explain to you the deal. She's paying everything for him. She needs the money from you to support her "man." If she can't take care of him, he's going to find another girl that can.

HE'S A BUM. If he were a Man, he wouldn't even consider shacking in a Section 8 home. And she wouldn't be trying to 'buy' his love.

You can continue to be nice if you think that's the wise thing to do, but know this: this problem isnt ever going away.

 

At some point in the future if you hold on to the love for those kids when that time comes for them to come find you to ask questions, you will be able to show that love. Everything has it's season in life I say. But not until then.

There is no parent on earth who does not not love their children. Don't stress about that. You are operating beyond your years. You will be ok. Your parents did a good job raising you..

That's enough from me here tonight. I don't want to be a bore.

 

I think that Granddad is a warrior then, probably not by choice as his body breaks down. I have a body that's breaking down as I write this, has been for years.

I watched inflation eat up my life time earnings between the 80's and 2010's everything steadly went up in cost and so forth. Our income did increase etc. But it's treading water to us. No regrets on our end. None. We would absolutely do it again in a heartbeat because thinking of a life toiling in a cubicle being hounded by micromanaging bosses is a terrible thing.

 

She may be in violation for living in subsidized housing if he lives there also. That's something you should ask your lawyer about. You don't want your two children under pressure, but they're already under stress if the boyfriend lives there illegally and is spending money you send home for child support. Talk to your lawyer and bring up these issues.

 

Its not often I find a young one who appears to be doing the same. You will be fine, just be very careful is all.

Even the strongest work ethic gets tired now and then. My problem in life is rather interesting when I consider my need to be useful. It's not going to be scanning 1.00 crap at the dollar store on minimum wage. No sir. I could argue that current laws that make employers detect medicines I must take to live a normal life what with my own issues put me out of work. I am working on that problem.

If I don't, then I die early just like anyone put out to pasture with nothing to do or anyone needing them. I literally continue to get up in the morning because there are still three people in my life who would be really sorry to see me go. Im not going anywhere just yet if I can help it. For them.