A woman's questions

1 year on the trainer's truck?. Sounds like you were brought on as a team driver. If teaming isn't for you, and hard to know until you try it, be upfront and let the company know now. Give them a chance to find a better solution rather than let things fester until they blow up one day and you wind up parting ways in the middle of nowhere trying to find your way home.

Unless the trainer is doing something to put your safety at risk (watching videos, texting etc while driving) I would just let it slide. Let her hang herself.

 

did you buy any of your food with cash advance off the pump

 

I'm reminded of the saying, "Those that mind, don't matter, those that matter, don't mind."
So, if she is really a friend, she won't mind you getting a different trainer, if she does take offense, she ain't a friend and you might be better to cut her loose anyway.
I was with my trainer for I think 5 weeks. He had a scheduled week off (which I was off also) during our time together. So, we trained for 4 weeks. Anyway, it wasn't ideal and the first week getting used to him really sucked. Howeverl after that first week of adjustment and knowing it was only temporary, I lightened up some and things got better. Once I was able to see past the crap that annoyed me, I was able to see what a good guy he truely was and I've met very few who had such a big and gold heart. He was just a rough, crud, old Mexican dude. I live in a place that's probably about 80% Mexican and my Mother-In-Law's maiden name is Garcia. So, I know that culture.
Anyway, after that first week, the rest was really good. I learned alot and oh my God did we laugh alot.
In the end, the time with my trainer was a cherished time and I will always be grateful. He gave me a very good start on my adventures in trucking. But, it certainly didn't start that way.
If she is not working out for you as a trainer, and from your post, it sounds like it isn't, I'd strongly consider trying to get a different trainer if at all possible. I also agree with others, in that only divulge what you must and keep as much private as you can. It sounds like she doesn't train all the time and therefore, probably won't be taking on another trainee. So, you won't be passing the buck on her problems as a trainer onto the next trainee.
My opinion, based on what she shared. Good Luck to you. BTW, once I went solo, it REALLY sucked at first. It wasn't until about my 3rd month solo that I stopped stressing so much. But, I DID stop stressing so much. I'm in my 13th month now and, although it is not perfect, I'm rather enjoying it all. Also, I'm a retired Federal Civil Servant filling in the years between civil service retirement and actual retirement. I walked when I finished my 30 years, but still had about 9 years till I could completely retire. I took alittle over a year off and then started this endeavor. Right now I have about 6 & 1/2 years left. At this point looks like I'll be truck driving for the duration. My plan B and plan C ideas kinda went out the window of practicality when Covid hit and changed things.

 

So how long is the “required” training period? Nobody said you have to team with her once that period is over.

 

If the truck is parked when she should be driving that's her problem. If you are doing her driving for her and it is logged as her on the elogs and you are exceeding your 11hrs, stop that now!!!. Seriously, park the truck and do not get behind the wheel again until you can legally do so. Ignore any complaining or crying she may do.

Tell her in no uncertain terms that the video calling has to stop or you will be asking the company to take you off the truck for safety concerns, then follow through on that if she continues.

The hygiene stuff well, only you know your tolerance. You are probably unlikely to change her habits, so either put up with it or get off the truck. I had one trainer with a hygiene issue, it was disgusting but I knew it was only temporary and if I asked for a new trainer that would only prolong me getting my own truck...and there no guarantee the new trainer wouldn't be as nasty or worse.

 

If she can't afford to feed herself maybe she isn't a good enough driver to earn enough to do so in which case that should make you consider whether you want someone like that training you, or maybe the company is just garbage. There are some out there like that.

 

I can't add to what the others said, I'd just be repeating the same stuff but her using a bucket in the truck is down right gross. Money isn't that serious. 15 min to run to the bathroom won't kill a paycheck.

 

@Blueeyes Searching

Re: your post #25

BAIL OUT NOW.

She is putting your life and future driving in grave jeopardy. You shouldn’t have to pay for her poor choices. Let the chips fall where they may regarding the friendship.