Child Support - License Suspended

You poor #######! Spent 12 years in Tennessee and could not wait to get out. Be happy if I never go there again.

 

Sometimes, in some places, its their first move, not the last.

 

They will #### you up over two missed payments.

 

out here in ca they will suspend lic for non payment but will work with you.

 

Don't feel bad. For 13 years I paid my child support twice a month via a bank push.

I changed bank accounts and in the process caused 2 payments to miss and I was out of the country at the time and she could not reach me. So she had kittens and filed with the state Attorney General and messed up the application process. Long story short, she has the state of Texas thinking I have not paid her anything over the past 13 years, and that I owe her $225k plus another $77k in interest.

I've been working with the AG and she has been refusing to validate my claims of past payements. Recently the state has imposed liens on all my possessions (not much).

Not sure where it's going to end up but at least the state has sense enough to know that if they suspend my CDL, current payments will cease to happen. I may have to take some extended time off to work with an attorney. Dealing with the state AG CS office as a non-custodial parent is a miserable and slow process.

I think you can get the license reinstated [or kept out of suspension] but you will have to deal with a lot of BS. You may have to work with an attorney.

So the answer to the question "So, do you and your ex get along?" is No. We used to tolerate each other ok up until all this crap happened, now I can't be anywhere near her.

 

My trainee partner at Stevens missed some payments. His ex was OK with it because he was training and she talked to her case worker about it but they still hauled him into court.

 

My uncles ex tried to pull the same stunt in New Mexico. He paid her a check directly. She filed for assistance and claimed she never got a dime. He saved all the canceled checks that she deposited but the child support people said personal checks written by the non custodial parent and endorsed/deposited by the custodial parent with "child support" written in the memo section was not necessarily proof of child support payment. Eventually they settled and determined he did pay but underpaid so he ended up owing several thousands. Keep in mind his ex got her money and wasn't punished at all for lying to the child support people.

 

Same thing happened to me. Paid her directly for a year.

She claimed she never got a dime a year later and the court could care less I'd paid her directjy and even held me in contempt for not going through the clerk of courts office. I was 19 what did I know?

She ended up getting years worth free and clear and I had to pay it all over again tacked onto the regular amount as arrears. Nothing was ever said to her about her outright, willful, malicious perjury under oath. They just didn't care.

It's a hardcore racket they've got going. The only thing the court in SC cares about is grabbing that 5% 'administrative fee' on each payment. This was 1986. Thank god I've been done and over with all that for going on 14 years now.

 

I'm kind of half-way hoping the state does suspend my CDL at some point. I will have her in court so fast for a host of things it will make her head spin, when it's all said and done, she will be paying me ... in my dreams?

Ok. I get it, there are a lot of "dead-beat dads" out there and the states have had to implement some hard-nosed policies to make some of these people "whole" again. But child support too often is a path to alimony in non-alimony states such as Texas, and that 'aint right.

 

How does suspending a liscence help get child support. Even if the father is does not drive for a job, he most likely had to drive to a job. Seems counterproductive.