Children May Doom, Not Help A Marriage

I've known that for the longest time.

 

Thanks to the advent of Socialism and its policies of "do what feels good and worry about the consequences later" (or rather let the taxpayers' pay for it down the road is more like it) that's no surprise.

How about this......
Before people even talk about getting to the alter: Discuss things like finishing an education, getting careers and not just "jobs"; and ....oh, discuss having children and how to raise them would be an important topic to discuss.

Children are part of marriage, but to blame the break-up of a marriage on children, is a liberal excuse.

 

Children merely amplify flaws in compatibility, and that's not their fault. Who we can blame, however, are liberals who keep people hooked to the welfare teat and give mothers no incentive to stop firing off babies and take away the power of common sense in schools and the ability to spank your child.

 

I disagree with both notions. They don't make marriages happier or worse. They are the glue though and will put a divorce off indefinitely, out of a sense of responsibility. "Staying together for the kids"... very popular.

 

I suppose if you can't blame all the problems in your life on the government and your parents you'd have to start blaming stuff on your kids.

Only two things can ruin a marriage: a husband and a wife.

Just my opinion.

 

I think what its trying to say is that having children to "save" a marriage hs the opposite effect, by placing further strain on a doomed relationship.
Staying together out of obligation "for the sake of the kids" is just plain miserable. My folks did it, and I wished so many times one would leave. All those fights, I'd rather have been a 'child-of-a-single-mom' statistic anytime.