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Everyone is different and everyone has a different story. You come across as a snob, looking down on those who choose to support their families from a distance. The distance part may not be the optimum, but no one asked the military guys if they mind, right?

You know the saying, if Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy? That works for Daddy, too. My husband spent 7 years too long in a profession that he initially LOVED, but ended up despising. I wouldn't wish the stress and anger levels on ANYONE. As a couple, we are stronger, as a family we are happier. Do we want him home? YES. But at the cost of his health (stress), peace of mind (provides better as a trucker than as a mechanic), and happiness (loves the job)? NO WAY. Our kids are almost-18 and almost-13. He has yet to miss an important event. He even took the older one to the Urgent Care to have her hand checked out (it's broken). Holidays on the calendar are arbitrary. We make every home time a holiday.

THAT being said, everyone has to be on the same page.

 

I was in the Military.. I don't remember them issuing anyone a family... When your in the Military just like Trucking you are married to your job 1st and everything else is secondary .. thats just the harsh truth...

 

Funny, we haven't found that to be the truth. In the military or trucking. Trucking doesn't issue you a family along with your truck either. However, people are in both, AND SUCCESSFUL at both their jobs and their family life. Perhaps those men and women are more successful at interpersonal relationships. Relationships take WORK. It's true, being in the military or trucking will make a relationship fail FASTER. However, if you make that relationship a PRIORITY, and continually perform the required work to maintain it, then it will thrive.

 

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13. But I have a special situation that requires me to be at home!

Again this sounds cruel, but too bad. If thats the case these companies don't need you. Majority of truckers are tough people, they spend countless nights away from home, sometimes in freezing cold weather, burning hot, over ice and snow, and if your situation is so grave that you have to be at home being a trucker isn't for you.

14. But my kids...

Listen, this is the cruel part, no one forced you to have kids, no one forced you to drive a truck. Millions of others have gone before you and made it ok. None of their kids were taking people out from a clock tower because daddy wasn't there.

 

When I had the wife and kids and the house payment and the car payment and the freakin' yard work.... I was freakin miserable!
Wifey left for a military guy and now she and the kids live in Hell On Earth El Paso, TX at Ft. Bliss. God bless 'em, they're better off.

I have a loving, sexy Filipina wife who will be able to handle me being away while I pay my dues. Then, the plan is she and our dog,
seen there in my Avatar, will join me. She may even get her CDL. Life has never been better or looked more promising in years!

Hard work? Long hours? Sleeping in a bunk? Enduring hot, cold, freezing weather? Bring it on! Beats all the time I spent behind a lawn mower,
string trimmer, leaf blower, mini-van in an office cubicle to make an obscene mortgage payment and pay and pay and pay for all the crap
having a family requires.

Some guys ain't cut out for the "family". I'm one of them, but no regrets.

 

What kids NEED is to know they are loved, a roof over their head, food in their bellies and clothes on their bodies. A parent's physical presence is more for the PARENT than the child. Grandparents, uncles, aunts and a plethora of other non-traditional family units bear that out. If my husband is happy doing what he is doing, and mentally healthy doing what he is doing, that does MORE for my kids than him going into a job on a daily basis that he HATES.

Skype, cell phones, and arranging your hometime around your schedules makes things work. JCW got home 24 hours late this time. That's ok. Things blew up that had NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM. But he was still home to take the kid to the doctor while I was otherwise occupied. And before anyone gets their boxers in a wad, I was with my mother getting awful news. It is causing us to make an adjustment. But that's ok. We will survive, and even thrive.

 

Is your husband the biological father ?

 

Does it really matter. Sperm Donner isn't the same. And it isn't really any of your business. Rudeness seems to be a part of your make up. Why are you wanting to truck anyway. you seem to have a good grasp on child psychology. You speak like you are an expert on the subject. Leave the poor woman alone. It isn't the right time for YOU. We get that. You've stated YOUR opinion. Thank you. Now go to your next patient or the next topic and quit psychoanalyzing a family you have never met nor know anything about. Have a glorious and blessed day.

 

Takes more than biology to make a father. But he is the biological father of the younger one, not the one that he took to Urgent Care. He took responsibility to get it done, knowing that I had to be somewhere else, equally important.

 

Then why wouldn't you say OUR kid/kids.?. Their would be a fight on in our house if my wife or I call our kids MY kids or YOUR kids . My wife brought 2 boys ages 5 and 3 to our marriage and I brought a boy 7 and a girl 3 into our marriage .. they all live/lived with us ..that was 12 yrs ago and they are OUR KIDS.. just sayin...