Don’t DO it! (Part 3: Relationships and Trucking)

There’s one area of the OP that I disagree with, or that we do differently.

We both vent to each other, have our rants about whatever is upsetting us. We do this to get it out of our systems. Always have. Not in front of others, but alone on the phone.

That way, it prevents us flying off the handle at the wrong person, it’s already de-pressurized. Or, it prevents us whining to EVERYONE about it.

She often needs a neutral sounding board, and as we all know too well in this industry - most days don’t go as planned, and if you’re not 100% oil skinned for the day it can get to you.

 

Another thing not to do is while driving don't be telling your wife/girlfriend/ect about the flipped over semi's you saw today. Or the car that was on fire.
Not to leave out the 4wheeler that cut you off In the last 30 seconds.
You really don't need to have your other half a nervous wreck. They don't need to know the #$__##*holes we deal with on a daily basis .

Good stuff @TripleSix

 

I’m 32 and unmarried with no kids. I’m a conservative and would want the same in a wife. I run my own truck and trailer and have unlimited freedom as far as work goes, and also make really good bank. Finding a conservative non extreme feminist woman who wants to have kids and be a stay at home parent in 2018 is near impossible.

I have never in all 32 years of my life and all my long term relationships had a woman that knew how to cook, clean, or do laundry. Absolutely never.

 

But Six, doesn’t my telling her everything mean there’s trust???

 

That’s terrible, but the more stories I hear - seems to be common.

I know how to cook/clean/launder - quite enjoy helping out with all these tasks. But I wouldn’t want a wife that didn’t.

Watch out - Chinatown will be here shortly with links to Asian brides . . .

 

Not for nothing, but in my experience love isn’t a checklist thing you can plan out like building a hot rod. Going on 20 years with the same woman.

You might also wish to consider that you’re eliminating growth as a couple. She may be hard nosed business person or something today...but in a few years when she’s pregnant the nesting and domestic side might appear. Maybe not, maybe you’ll change your mind and want her to stay in business. It might be easier to hire a maid and a nanny.

Don’t listen to me. I’m basically an idiot who got really lucky with the best woman I’ve ever met.

 

@TripleSix Love this! Reminds me of a driver I had come in for an interview one day. He worked for a sub-contractor and wanted to come over to our in-house fleet, I was managing an auto auction at the time. He was a reasonably competent hauler but it was a no go when his wife accompanied him to the interview and expected to sit in on it! I asked her why, she stated she wanted to make sure he didn't f it up and that I didn't screw him over.

Nope, not gonna happen. Sorry.

As for the wife and I, married 26 together 30, since high school, and she doesn't ever question me about who/what/where as I do my job. Sometimes we can go two or more days without calling, schedule doesn't always work out.

Also reminds me of another story. My wife's best friend's husband worked for me at one point and it became a point of contention between her and her friend because the friend would harass my wife about where her husband was all the time. Never trusted that her husband was actually working, at one point even accused my wife of covering for him. Bitter and jealous woman. Needless to say, they are divorced, wife and his ex are no longer friends yet he remains a close friend of ours to this day.

 

I always enjoy karma.
GF and i use to have a regular arguements over family time more so a date night for just us.

Normally when im home for a reset i get what i have to get done. Sometimes i just want to veg. Yes i’m aware that there is a work life balance i havent found being involved at the job 7 days a week.
Now she drives and has the long 12-14hr days. Granted shes home everynight and both weekend days but im hoping she finally will understand my side.

 

What was she jealous of: your moderator authority, the Dodge Ram, the Pabst Blue Ribbon, or your friendships on Where’s Everyone #5?