Going through a breakup while on the road

It's easier to blame @Oxbow and his generation.

Here we go again. Another woe is me mf'er

That you again, Chi Town Steers?

 

Crickets?

 

"simps" ????

'splain plz?

 

Suckers, those in the friendzone or worse. I hate today's language.

 

Whatever doesn't kill you -- makes you stronger.

-- L

 

Basically low tier guys that she will never date but she keeps around for validation and for when she needs a bookshelf moved.

 

Kudos to you for reaching out.

Your mind is taking you places that you don’t want to visit. That’s actually what you need to do. There are 2 sides, yours and hers. You can’t do anything about her so you need to figure out you. Not going to point fingers and get involved in a men vs women debate, just going to talk to you as a Man.

“While you are single, develop the qualities you know you need to have to become the Man you want to be.”

This is what my grandfather told me when I turned 18. Right now, you’re in a dark place. Stay there. Don’t try to ‘get over her, forget her, move on to the next.’ Better you. How? Fix what YOU don’t like about you.

“But Six, what about her…?”

Focus on you. The difference between seeing and focus is we see every day. Focus would be like trying to make a thousand yard shot while looking through a scope. When your mind is going to dark places, it will help you to focus on you. Most people never do this, never learn and so are doomed to repeat the failure again and again. So let’s fix you.

What I didn’t like about me was that I was hotheaded and violent, argumentative, foul mouthed. Being hotheaded means you’re easy to control. That’s weakness, no matter how physically tough you are. Do you like to argue? Most guys don’t, YET they argue.B 1 T € H!!!!! If she can make you do what you don’t want to every time in demand, guess what you are? The old school way is not to argue. My grandfather was the first person who told me not to argue with women. How in the hell do you accomplish this? If you have buttons to push, hide your buttons. Hide them long enough, eventually they disappear. Write this down: if someone can trigger me, I lack Self Control.

Self Control is the ultimate power in all relationships. The biggest difference between the guys who are successful in relationships vs the ones who fail is self control. How do you develop self control? The dark place you are in right now…lonely, scary, feels like you will never be happy again, right? Stay there. Stay dark. Delete all the parasites and negative people from your social media. All the mutual friends of you and your ex, block all of them. Get into the gym. Walk every day. Don’t contact your ex for any reason…the more you do this, the more pathetic you become in her eyes. The physical activity will destroy stress and you will realize that when you wake up, you feel great.

How much is it worth to wake up from sleep and actually feel great? Priceless. Holla back in a month and let us know how things are going.

Luck in battle.

 

It’s the guys that a woman will call when she gets a flat tire, or car and house repairs, who pays her bills, listen to all of her problems, gives her a shoulder to cry on, but she has zero romantic interest in. Yet Simp orbits around her with the hope of her one day seeing what a super duper nice guy he is and she will eventually fall in love with him. Boyfriend mistreats her, and she runs to the simp for emotional support. Simp builds her up, she runs back to the boyfriend for more mistreatment. The only time the simp gets the girl is when no one else wants her.

Forrest Gump was a simp movie. He gets the girl when she’s dying of AIDS. How romantic!

 

Dang @Ruthless you're like E F Hutton....

 

I cosign to this. Somehow that endless need for validation took the place of genuine, meaningful connections. That's causing a bit of a decline in my current relationship. Performative living at its finest.