Help me to understand...everyone else does.

If it smells bad, don’t eat it.

 

People are sheep

 

For you parents out there of preschool age children. These principles need to be taught by YOU. Good parenting is absolutely the most f in g difficult job a person can take on. I miss my Dad dearly. I really don't know who I'd be without him.

“Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.” ― C.S. Lewis.

 

Great topic and something I agree with. I know several people who have that "heard mentality" trait from the way they dress, to the way the talk, how they act, what they believe etc. I shed that bs around freshman year of high school. I had a stint in junior high when I felt I needed to "do things a certain way" to fit in. I've become quite the loner over the last 15 years or so and it's all by choice. I've got my wife and my 2 year old and besides them, I'm not really interested in having "buddies" because it's always been more of a pain in my ### than I care to deal with. I'm fine being like this.

Regarding a few posts about attitude makes me remember a post I wrote on here a month or so ago in response to a similar thread. It's very easy if you're not vigilant to get sucked into that negative cloud that most people seem to carry with them. I can't remember ever having a job that didn't have the usual suspects who always complained and couldn't be happy no matter WHAT they had going on. I tend to avoid folks like that, and I couldn't care less if you're family or not, if you're negative day in and day out for no other reason than being a dick, then I won't have anything to do with you. I firmly believe you CAN choose your outlook and you CAN decide to be a positive person. It's really not hard, and it's a hell of a lot easier than walking around with a ####ty attitude and permanent ##### face. Trust me, I've done both. I tend to believe that you are a product of your atmosphere, and 9 times out of 10, YOU choose that atmosphere.

 

@TripleSix -

Son "but all my friends are going to do it!"

Mom "If all your friends jumped off a bridge would you jump too?"

S-"probably "

M "what?!"

S- "think about it. My friends are by and large intelligent, responisble people. If they are jumping off a bridge, you think they might have a good reason? Like maybe th e bridge is a fiery inferno and the only escape is to jump. By your logic I should just stand on the bridge".

The above is a poor retelling of a comic strip from a few years ago. It's a nice illustration of the benefits of "herd thinking". By mirroring the actions of "successful " people around us, we may gain a material advantage. Or it may lead to our downfall.

My bet is the first time your acquaintance tried heroin, it wasn't in a seedy drug den. It was in a relatively nice place, and she heard how wonderful it would make her feel. The rational part of her mind recognizes she is climbing in the toliet, but the irrational part either feels like she is already in the septic tank, so the toilet is a step up, or reclassifies "toliet" as "jacuzzi".

For your job hopping friend I refer you to the immortal Shel Silverstein

"My dad gave me one dollar bill
'Cause I'm his smartest son,
And I swapped it for two shiny quarters
'Cause two is more then one!
And then I took the quarters
And traded them to Lou
For three dimes-- I guess he didn't know
That three is more than two!
Just then, along came old blind Bates
And just 'cause he can't see
He gave me four nickels for my three dimes,
And four is more than three!
And I took the nickels to Hiram Coombs
Down at the seed-feed store,
And the fool gave me five pennies for them,
And five is more than four!
And I went and showed my dad,
And he got red in the cheeks
And closed his eyes and shook his head--
Too proud of me to speak! "

Sometimes less is more, sometimes more is less, and sometimes more is more. Many people believe the world is single variable algebra - challenging, but ultimately learnable. However the world is multivariable calculus.

As a secondary thought, you always recommend that guys look for the next step - a way to get better and grow into new opportunities . Sometimes you need to move laterally or backwards to go forwards.

 

For me, I see it as an issue with self doubt. I have a hard time believing emotionally what I do believe logically. In the example of Six's sister.

Well I know that I have a good job. Thing is, if everyone keeps telling me how bad a job it is, well the 20 drivers in the office must be smarter than me.....

Yes I know that's not logical, but it is how my brain works. Hear something enough times and no matter how illogical it is, it will start having the ring of truth to it.

Then there is the Grass Is Always Greener aspect. While this job is known, that other one, well it does sound better....

 

"I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not".

As I get older it pertains more and more to everyday life. Take me or leave me I could care less. I don't sugarcoat anything, you ask me a question your going to get an honest answer. If someone does something that affects me or my family they are going to hear about it, positive or negative. Sometimes I pop off or give an opinion when I probably shouldn't but as they say......"it's what makes us all different".

Couldn't agree more, I'm in the same boat. Me, my wife and a 13 yr old son, we do just fine being us.

My best friend passed away in '95. Having a best friend is like a great marriage.....it just comes naturally and isn't work at all, it just clicks and you know that any bumps in the road will be dealt with and worked out. In my little world I've always associated having a best friend like your first true love, you only get one in a lifetime and it's darn near impossible, if not impossible to duplicate either one, I'm 56 and I haven't. Of course that may have to do with the motto I live by, lmao!

Don't get me wrong, it's great having friends, I have tons of em but you want to be friends? You'll not find a more loyal, honest, be there whenever you need me friend than me but don't BS me or do me wrong and try to BS me because I'm not an idiot, I know when I'm being BS'd and I don't have time for nor do I do many second chances. True friends don't do that to each other. Maybe I just expect too much and that's why I'm so disappointed and leary of people now day's.

 

Awesome

 

THAT'S. JUST. ####ING. CLASSIC.

 

A truck stop diner isn't really a restaurant. Different rules of etiquette.