Honest Opinions Needed

So the plot thickens. The husband is at home with the great job, the wife wants to run off with another man (just friends) and be a truck driver. The hubby doesn't want the wife running off to be a truck driver. Hubby told the wife if she leaves, just keep on going, then changed his mind and begged his wife to see things from his point of view, and the point of view of other truckers.

I think you were smart to switch the genders around to get a feel for people's honest opinions. I would bet that responses would have been 100% against it if you had accurately revealed the genders involved.

 

Maybe some, but not most, I think.
I stand by what I said, that OTR and a rocky marriage do NOT mix well...regardless of which partner wants to do the OTR.

Judi Kay

 

Hope it all works out for you both.Good luck.

 

So wait a minute, you're the one raking in the $85k?!?!?
Then what do you need that bimbo for?
Man, if she wants to ho around in a CR England truck than let her.
Don't let the door hit you on the way out, honey!
Plenty of women would dig a stay-at-home man who makes that kind of bread.
Not some overweight, smelly OTR trucker who doesn't take showers.

 

Most of us don't think like this. If you truly want this work then you will make it work. The decision is ultimately yours. Take some of the advice given but do what you think is right.

 

I agree with both Bullet and Paddington. (I can see both sides.) It was good of you to let your wife go out, it would of been good of your wife to let you go out. That is not the real issue.

The real issue is (using the proper people now and the real story) is does your wife want it to work (the marriage) or not. At this point it is a one way street and there is nothing you can do if the other person is not willing to put some work into it.

The other thing I can say, is if the other person is not willing to work things out, compromise, and find alternative solutions - then you need to get out. One sided trying (your part) is just waste time, makes life miserable and will eat at you more than taking the plunge and being done with it! (That was my mistake!! years of pain before I took the plunge; most dumb thing I ever did.) If she is not walking the talk - it's done. In my case I listened to the talk and excuses - man was I wrong to do that.

Your wife should also know that under these circumstances - she will have a long ways to go to get back what she has with you.

Wife: it may be fun now, but drive a year and discover what you are giving up - it sounds like you have a great mate in your husband - sure you want to lose it for 25K a year in a tin can, normally with no A/C in the summertime while you are waiting? Idle time - and CR England is one of the many companies that have very low idle time. If you get an APU then things are a little different (not much) - but don't count on it!! CR England has a very low reputation as well. Read some of the threads here - learn for yourself! I am a noob - I need a job badly - I still won't do CR England unless that is my last desperate choice.

 

Trucking really has very little to do with this situation at all. Check out Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage. I know the man who runs these seminars, he is my pastor. I can assure you that it will be very eye opening and entertaining.