Husband got a DUI

Grab your stuff, clean out the accounts, and go on vacation somewhere. I hear there's a nice guy in western PA, tall, bald, with hazel eyes, likes fast cars and big furry dogs, and drags a flatbed around for a respectable living. You could go visit him.

OK, I'm joking around there. But still, why let yourself be tied to a boat anchor like that. He's done driving for a living. Heck, he might be done driving anything more complicated than a bicycle for quite some time. Legal system gets real nasty like over DUI/DWI's in commercial vehicles. And if he ain't figured out how to get his life together by now, he ain't gonna! He'll just be another sad old derelict with nothing to his name and too old to work anymore. Find somebody with some degree of ambition who makes you laugh, and go build a happy life with that person!

 

Sorry girlfriend but I think you need to get your life on without him. I hate to use the word but divorce may be the best solution for you.

 

It saddens me to read this girlfriend, I wish you only the best, which may, or may not, include him. I will pray for the both of you.

Peace...

 

Seems pretty clear to me that you know what you need to do. You don't mention if you two have kids or not, but if there are kids involved, it makes it that much more imparitive that you dump him.
He isn't going to change until he hits the bottom, and possibly not even then!
Girl, you have a whole life time ahead of you, don't waste it! LIFE IS TO SHORT AND UNCERTAIN for you to waste another moment on this fellow.
He is likely to promise "to change if you only give me another chance." You already know better than that though.
Think about ten years from now! Will you just be another ten years older and still in a toxic relationship, or will you have gone your own way and made a life for yourself?
You say you don't think he is an alcoholic. Well, if he isn't, then he is just a common drunk.
A whole bunch of us on here have had similar substance abuse problems. We pretty much know what we are talking about, when we say you should move on.
Good luck to you! You have a rough road ahead, no matter what your decision is.

 

Having been both, from where I sit they're one and the same. No difference.

 

I can't believe that everyone is sitting here telling this lady to divorce her husband because he got a DUI. Ain't y'all ever heard the old song. Stand By Your Man. No one knows whether these people need to divorce or not. That's entirely up to them.

 

Not a DUI -- another DUI...

 

You just said it! For better or worse and through good times and bad. You should try and work it out! If he works for a small private company my they will probably keep him if he is a hard worker BUT only if their insurance will still cover him. That being said, this will cost 10 to 20 grand by the time he's done with court and traveling and sap will probably be a requirement for him to keep working. Hope this helps

 

I've known factory workers who got a dui, they lost their license for a while, so a truck driver will probably be without a license for a bit, ?? Does he park the rig at home or will you have to drive him to it? As he wont have a drivers license.