I need some personal help.

Here is what I am going to suggest to you is that at this point you need to sit down with your wife with that yellow legal pad, and you have to come up with a plan together, and I would put it to her like this "Honey I know you want me here, I want to be here, but the reality is, if I am here every night with the jobs that are available, we will never be able to make ends meet and I want better for you and our boy because I love you so much. I know it is a sacrifice having me on the road, and I know being out there there are things I will miss, but what it will mean for us is a good life, a good home, and the time we have with each other can be spent not worrying about bills, but instead enjoying our time together and getting to live our lives doing things we enjoy"

You need to feed her the dream and find a way to make good on it, you need to get her into wanting to get a house, and sell her on the idea of getting one outside of town a ways where you can park a truck there so when you come home you don't have to spend 2-3 hours between time at the terminal and getting home. This will also means when you catch a load through the area you can stop in for the night and be back to work in the morning.

Showing her that you are passionately dedicated to her is going to go a long ways in getting her to support you.

As well while you are on the road get out there, make friends with other drivers, when you meet other drivers you get along with who work the same area, who live close to you and have wives themselves, get the wives together so they can become friends because they can help each other with things when you are on the road.

Success is about networking, the more people you bring into your network, the better off you are going to be because the greater your resources available become.

And for you making her friends with other drivers wives is going to pay off because as a favor they can take turns watching the kids so when you get into town you and your wife can get a night out on the town with out paying through the nose for a babysitter that may or may not show up.

To think you two have to do this alone is not true, you need to network with people in similar situations and build a sense of community, if you can do that you will find even the hard times get easier.

 

Dark majesty...I read most of this thread and while I applaud the commitment you have shown to your family , I really think that trucking of any form may not be the best career choice for you guys. You seem to be stuck in the middle , on one side you want to be home with the wife and kids....great thing. On the other you really want to drive....the two can be done , but there will be some give and take on both ends. ....However , when forced to make that final decision YOU must take into consideration just how it will affect your relationship with the mother of your child......1st. That relationship is so much more important than a job...now if the only thing that will satisfy both of you is for you to be home... find a local job , with an LTL carrier , a food service company (Golden State Foods) they have a place right up the road from you in St. Louis....I worked for them for over 30 years and they are a top notch company with great pay , benefits , and you'll be home most nights...once you gain some seniority( 2 to 5 years). You guys must decide if you can sacrifice a little time away to start with. Good Luck!

 

No apology needed, that's what this forum is for and that's why we are here... take all the advice and sift though it, there's a lot of good thoughts in this thread from people who have been where your standing.

 

To Funny....Good One....

 

Two weekends a month isn't too bad.I say take the job stick with it and before long you can take your wife and boy with you.

 

Dirty pool old man. Waylon, Jessie Colerain, Willie, David Allen Cole, Hank Jr. & Me were in a tour bus in Monticello, Iowa once apon a time. No one can take that away from me. One heck of a hangover. Think what you want.

 

Wish I could argue, busy go here, lease the truck there, we go to the same places, the money is not that much different . We need a better trailer? Argue. What a deal. Broke my keyboard. Driver that has never had a violent bone in his body, hits a keyboard. I broke it. Don't prove nothing. I beat a plastic device. Wow. Don't stop the pain of the loss of my Wife & Daughter. Anger does nothing. I use tears, their all I got.
I can fill swimming pools.
What a deal, More tears, I'm alive but I'm alone. #### Freightliner don't care. Holds our clothes.

 

I'm going to let the Cat run a little bit. 15 over high side, the NOS is active. Charged, Funny how the buttons made it onto the shifter. HI way is empty. He likes to run. The XZA Michelin tires were made for it.
4:09 am, nothing is there, just the Cat & me. A empty seat, where my wife was. Punch the button. 3 min of thrill, a lifetime of her gone. Better go Home & love your Wife, all I have is a truck. Real.

 

7:am truck is in the drive. Her coat still hangs on her side of the truck. I should change that. I'm sorry, know a little about driving, willing to share with those that don't know yet.