Is It Always Going To Be This Hard?

Mrs. Dotson, I feel for you and your family. I think it's fair to say this is the most stressful of times for all of you. Your husband's kinda marching off into a very challenging, and at times very difficult career. Life as you knew it is now changing very dramaticly. These are facts you must recognize, but must not allow to start feeding on themselves, until you find yourself consumed by them. IMO, crying's not always a bad thing. And I'm hoping you felt better when you were through. And I hope the reality of the decission you made together with your husband is now taking hold. I won't even pretend to know the extent of your longing, or your fears, or any of that. But I will say it's an absolute part of a process affecting all of you. So I wish you all well, and hope you can find the courage to support your family through this, the toughest of times. Listen to those of us who offer our advice and encouragement . Your family needs your support now more than ever.

 

there are a lot of trucking families which are large families (5 or more kids) and they make it work. personally, I think the woman has the HARDER jobs than the man in that case!!!! I admire the women in trucking families. and I also think your husband is lucky to have such a good woman as you. my wife can't wait to get me out of the house, on the road. she says it will be "good for us"..... frankly I can't take much more of her BS... but that's another story entirely.

 

Mrs Dotson,

I really feel for you. My wife goes through the same thing unfortunatly all to often.(Yet i'm not driving anymore). With me being on active duty and deploying overseas on a regular basis she to has a issue with me being gone. But, after awhile she gets into her own rutine of how to do things and she adapts very well. I must admitt that when I am home and able to spend time with her and my kids we make the most out of every moment that we can. Where I am stationed we're on a regular 4 month rotation to the desert. I wish you and your family all the luck and grace the comes with everything you do.

 

Mrs Dotson, you will make it through this. I started driving truck when our second child was only 3 months old, and my eldest had just turned four. And it was very hard on my wife, so much so that now as I get ready to hit the road again (for 2-3 weeks a time) she had to find some part-time help (with the kids) because she works a lot of hours.
It doesn't get any easier, but once you establish a routine to keep yourself busy, you won't have time to dwell on it as often. And keep talking to hubby, even if things aren't great, you will just have to find a way to break it to him easily (unfortunately my wife and I never figured out how to do this, and out relationship is very rocky).
Best of luck to you and your family!

PS- Good luck to you bear!