Looking for advice

Tell him to get a REAL job!


On a serious note have read through the forums for a bit, lots of good information.

 

How old is your BF? What does he do for a living now? How much does he currently make? Where do ya'll live? Answers to these questions set us up much better to advise.

 

I understand what your point is.... you feel he is making a big decision based on the emotions he is going through grieving the death of his father... you feel he needs to put more thougnt into it and consider your feelings and your relationship. ..

All that is probably true.... but he needs to come to b is own decision on this... if you push to hard that he not do it.. then over the years whenever he struggles with a job or grieves his father he will wonder how what it would. E if he had gone into trucking... and your relationship will struggle with that..

Love is the ability or willingness to allow those we love to choose for themselves and not insist their choices satisfy us...

Loosing a parent is not easy and grieving is a long and tough process.. your bf needs your love, support and understanding right now... not you deciding what is best for him... because do you really know... gettinging into trucking may be a good thing for him... and you. .. and your relationship. ..
It may not be... but it is a decision he needs to make a figure out as part of his grieving process...

Also... this is going to sting a bit... but, you are a girlfriend not a wife... there is a difference. .. often it is the love, support and understanding one shows during tough times that makes the other realize that you are who they want as a partner for the rest of their life... right now it appears to me that you are more concerned with his choice being what you want and not what he may want or even need... so, take this time to grow and mature as a person, as woman..

 

Your asking a bunch of trucker how to talk to your bf? Thats a question for a therapist, not a bunch of truckers. I made great money right off the bat, and he could to. You dont need 30+ years to make the big bucks. It seems you need to talk to him about why you dotn want him trucking...not try and convince him its not a good career. Trucking is the best career ive ever had.