GWG. You seem like a guy who has some smarts.
Just remember these words when you feel like they're putting a gun to your head and wanting you to do things you shouldn't or can't........
"Sorry,I can't do that because(insert excuse here)"
Once a truck is in the ditch or on it's side........there are no excuses.
You say "we have to play by their rules",which is true to an extent.
The Golden rule in trucking for a driver is this "PROTECT YOUR LICENSE ABOVE ALL ELSE" and unfortunately the people you will most likely be protecting your license from is most often the company you work for.
Good luck.
I hope you find something that works for you.