wife about to pull hair out

I know I know and we're talking on another thread. She'll get it right. Remember how difficult the first couple of years are? Sheesh how'd we all survive? LOL

 

I feel for ya, I really do..but you do need to take a deep breath...

My husband is home every 6-8 weeks and lately its been longer. We have three children...all deal better than me. They talk to him every night, read him stories, track him on the big wall map etc...no your baby can't do that but he/she CAN talk to daddy on the phone. Speaker phone would be especially helpful.

You will get through this, just remember why he is out there. For you and his family.

Best of luck!

 

I know how difficult it is. No ultimatums...there is no faster trust-breaker be it the military, law enforcement or trucking.

The guy is working like a dog to support his family. He needs support just like she does. Tell her to have him post online here. I am for certain that the guys here can help him help her.

 

Oh my land, the stress of trucking...heres a great idea, you take care of the baby and home, he goes to work and makes money. You can NEVER tell a man quit your job or else, quit fishing or else, quit hunting or else get the drift?...when you add the OR ELSE, you will get OR ELSE maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but you will get it.
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A WIFE of a trucker has to be many things and supportive is at the top of the list! If he were to leave swift now he would get a big debt to pay back (I assume he went their CDL route) and probably some stupid stuff on his DAC report that would hinder or even prevent him from getting another job. You picked the right place to vent, rant, rave and throw a fit,

It takes awhile to adjust to this life, and lots of support from friends, family etc.

 

You need Zanex ( spelling ? ) and if you don't get some he will need them!

 

EXACTLY!
There is no place for INSECURITY(ies) in Trucking
I raised two kids and missed many of their Birthdays,as well as major Holidays with them to build what they have today.

 

Nana, this is the type post that you can bring to her attention. Have the married guys give hints on how this young lady's husband can give her the emotional support she needs when he is away, and reward the entire family when they are all together.

If he is a new driver, chances are that he will have to do 2 years OTR before he will find a decent local gig.

 

Hello wifeyto(etc), and welcome to the world of truck driving.

It takes a special woman to be the wife of a trucker, or any other job that the husband is gone most of the time. Frankly, not everyone can make it work.

It really bothers me to see the statement:

as this tells me you are letting your thoughts go where they probably should not. If you really do love him so dearly, why do you even think about a "messy divorce."

If you think life is tough on you now, think what it would be like after a divorce. There you are, a child to raise and on your own...

I know you have a LOT on your plate. It is darn tough to have the baby get sick, or the car break down, or the refrigerator quit and not have hubby there to help you to deal with it.

I do hope you have a support group of family and friends that can give you some help when needed. A good support group behind you can make your life a whole lot easier.

I don't mean to sound harsh here, but it seems to me like you need to step up to the plate and grow up a bit. Again, I know it is not easy. And some folks have a harder time with maturing than others do. (Hell, I'm STILL a kid!)

You husband is out there doing a dog-gone tough job, trying to make a life for himself, you and the baby. This is a time when you need to be supportive of him, as he is most likely already worried to death about how you are doing. He needs to have some time in this job, before moving on. He needs the experience, and the job stability of staying with a company for a year or two, before going elsewhere.

And it is up to HIM to find another job. It is NOT up to you to find a job for him. More than likely, this just won't work. This doesn't mean you can't sort of "point him in the right direction," but he is the one that will have to get the job for himself.

I hope you guys are in daily communication. If not, you need to be. I've seen some folks on here who just don't know how to communicate between driver and home. It leads to some potentially serious problems.

Just a quick phone call at some time during the day, (or night) so you guys know that you are both OK. If you have the time, you can have some very deep discussions this way. In fact, it may be the only way you get to have those deep discussions that most of us do on a face to face basis.

Oh good grief I've run off at the mouth (keyboard) way too much here, so I'll shut up now.
Good luck to you!