Husband got a DUI

Well since clearly this isn't the first poor choice he's made, not the first time he's exercised bad judgement, not the first time you've had to 'clean up his messes', and this time he just drank away his very livelihood and earning ability and just doesn't care......maybe it's time to evaluate what's best for YOU, and not so much him.

This comes from someone who's been there done that but was always lucky enough to stay one step ahead and never get caught......but it took losing everything I had and those dear to me to get the message, grow up, and sober up.

Cut your losses and move on......otherwise you're enabling and will continue to clean up his messes. His career driving is pretty much over.

 

Multiple DUI's and 40ish? Now to the point he ruined a good career?

You're in complete denial. Step back and take in the whole forest, not just the dying tree in front of you that you aren't going to save until it has to find water on it's own.

 

There are two serious convictions that will come out of this incident. DUI is one, and Reckless Driving is the other. Most (or many) states regard any speeding violation that is 15 mph or more above the speed limit is by definition Reckless Driving.

Since these violations happened while driving a CMV the chances of your soon to be ex-husband ever being employed by a reputable trucking company is pretty much nil. It won't matter whether he loses his CDL or not, but I certainly hope that will be the case. I believe most good trucking companies will require at least 7 years from the date of the most recent Reckless Driving conviction, and 7-10 years from the most recent DUI conviction.

 

He is done dui in a rig save your money his days are done for a long time it's most likely going to be revoke not 100% on that but even if him get to keep no insurance will touch him good luck you guys going to need it

 

The 25 over will keep companies from hiring him for 3-5years, depending on the company. The DUI will keep companies from hiring him for anywhere from 5-10 years, depending on the company.

No matter which way he turns, he's screwed.

 

Which is why he has to be cut loose completely or have the tough love turned on wide open. He either straightens up or you go. Sadly it will most likely end up being that you go considering his age and long term track record.

Separate bank accounts is a good first step but make sure any access to yours is well hidden and nowhere he can get to it.

Having spent 15 years of my life smoked up, coked up, pilled up, drunk and no recollection of that time period......and now 19 years clean and sober, I can speak with credibility and authority on this subject. By rights I should have died before I was 30 when I figured out now might be a good time to grow up lol

That said, I'm one of the few who recovered in stellar fashion and now financially secure and doing what I want, so it is possible. Just not probable.

The bottom line is if he isn't ready and doesn't make the choice to get his #### together on his own, nothing you do, even leaving, is going to make it for him.

I wish you the best of luck.....but the odds and the reality of the situation is against you.

 

Not good. All not good.

Appreciate your honesty and straight forward approach.

Hope things work out okay for YOU.