First Day No Call No Show

I'd have went over to his house, took off my belt and tuned his ### up a little bit.

 

It's not only the trucking industry. My wife runs our small farm where we sell goats and chickens by appointment only. Customers will call, make an appointment and either show up late or don't show. It is like they assume that she has nothing better to do other than to sit around waiting on them to show up for a chicken or two.

 

Thats pretty messed up... Coughing and vomiting blood is not as rare as most think... And doesnt always require medical treatment.

I have experienced it personally. And recently... Vomited blood... Had to find someone to cover my load that was scheduled for the next day, it really sucked. 3 days later I was back on the road.

A while later I asked my doc about it... He asked me a few questions, then told me. The bleeding itself and the vomiting were probably unrelated. I had had extremely bad axid reflux all day long, which most likely caused bad irritation of the lining of my esophagus. The vomitting was probably a virus of some type. The act of violently vomiting then exacerbated the bleeding of the lining of the esophagus.

 

I've been witness to this happening countless times. All I can come up with is, apparently some people are allergic to money.

 

I’ve only been with my 1st company 16 months.

I feel bad leaving them, they have been so good to me but it’s time for me to get to work on own truck.

Gave them a month warning and told them if for any reason they need me a little longer I’ll make it work.

 

Can't say I blame a fellow for that!

 

Right - your first post mentions this. It even stated you had a load ready for him!

They really should change "common courtesy" to "uncommon courtesy" because the former is so rare these days...

Back when I was in my 20's, we called it "being a flake."

I theorize people call it "ghosting" because it not only sounds hip but also subtly shifts the dynamic.

For example, imagine this piece of work describing the situation in one of two ways.

A) "I flaked on that guy."

This implies he failed to act professionally. Unless he has mental issues, he very well should feel guilty and ashamed.

B) "I ghosted that guy."

This, I believe, empowers the person making the statement. It implies he had a legitimate reason to ignore you. He simply has to conjure up a few juicy rationalizations to support his false narrative.

And I understand even employers and HR personnel often lack the courtesy to give a brief response. To me, they're just inconsiderate a-holes who happen to also be gate keepers.

However, I refuse to play that game just because many others do.

I know being well groomed, clean, and presentable makes me stand out from the herd.

But that's not enough in my book.

I also know I have to be able to engage in civil discourse and do the simple - but often important - things such as following up, whether the news is good or bad.

It's not just good manners - it's smart business which gives me an edge.

 

That's an interesting point.

One time I was in orientation watching video and received a call from another job lead. Sadly, I stayed the course in that situation with a lousy Drive Away 1099 job. In the moment, it was a tough call, but I wish I had put in time driving myself to another city for this job.

The other job was a box truck job moving U.S. Mail.

Any thoughts on the better way to handle ditching a job when second or even 3rd offers come in after already in orientation? It can be tempting as the job seeker to keep quiet on these things until the last minute because you might feel like you can burn 2 bridges instead of 1.

 

Unfortunately like a lot of other things it’s the people that take advantage that screws it up for everyone. Before owning trucks and people consistently trying to take advantage of me, I was a very caring person towards what people are going through and believed them. Now, I walk a fine line between still being a caring and thoughtful person, but seeing things for what it is and calling out bs. Trucking business makes you very cynical and often times jaded.

Good for you man. I had a guy talk to me a couple months before he moved on. He was moving to another state and wanted to work together and the result be the best for everyone. Stand up guy.

Great post. When I was a teenager and AOL was big and popular, there was something called a “buddy list”. Anyone remember that? Anyway, you could see when friends were online and send them a message. However, if you wanted to appear offline and not be bothered you could go into “ghost mode” and it was called ghosting. I figured it originated from that but your analysis makes a lot of sense as well. Making excuses for ones short comings seems to common. When it’s really just self justification for it to be ok to be an ### hole.

I don’t know how the megas work but for smaller companies I think it’s just about communication and honesty. I really like when someone tells me they are looking at other companies then mine. This way we can talk about and compare the companies to see what may be the best fit for THEM. Sometimes I’ll even tell them it sounds like maybe they would be better off going with the other company and that we aren’t going anywhere, if it doesn’t work out to call me.

I’ve found that it doesn’t make sense to try and get someone in your truck just to get them in there. It’s got to be a good fit or everyone is just wasting their time and the results are never good.

 

Maybe he found better deal....