Dealing with heartbreak during CDL training and OTR training?

It really depends on your personality. I find solace in being alone and looking outside the window and watching the world pass but others find it spiritually rejuvenating by being with friends and talking until your lips fall off.
So do you find comfort from friends or by being alone?

 

I’d agree with this comment .
If you are interested in any field that’s in demand like any medical jobs , and can get some kind of grants or scholarships , I’d get a degree in some field that’s in demand , like anything medical.

my doctors office has closed their lab because they can’t find anyone to work on their lab , or draw blood etc .

that said , I got into trucking because I was 23 , in a dead end job that I loved but it was clear that I wasn’t ever going to get promoted .
The first month trucking on my own without the trainer I made 5 times as much as I made working at my dead end job .
But as everyone has mentioned , trucking is one of those jobs where everyone hates you and would just as soon you not be there .


Flatbed is the only branch where the folks are usually happy to see you arrive with their cargo .

stay safe , find a place to stay where your former BF can’t find you

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And as others have suggested , minimize
Your time spent on social media , it has nothing to offer, if you need or want to talk to someone , just do it the old fashioned way and call them .

stay away from alcohol and drugs .
Weed stays in your blood for weeks and weeks , and will get you rejected or kicked out of every trucking job.


Look into community college CDL classes of your state offers them
They are usually low cost or free using a WOIA grant and the ones in my state are far better classes than the private schools .

while you at the community college , tour around the other classes , welding , plumbing , Electrictian etc
See if there is something else that interests you.

 

I highly recommend trucking for anyone in your situation. A new field of work sounds good on the surface, but underneath the surface can be a cancer called office politics that can make your life miserable. That's true with nursing, office work, and practically any type work that has a break room where the gossip runs wild. Don't have to deal with any of that in the solitude of a truck.
I try to schedule my driving time to run at night. Some people prefer daytime driving, but I and many others prefer night driving.
Nighttime driving on the open road heading across the country to a new place and a new town. Lights dim inside the truck and favorite music playing. Sipping on a thermos of fresh coffee to top it off.

I'll go to a truck stop to fuel the truck, take a shower, eat a meal, then right back to the parking lot and climb into my apartment on wheels. I don't hang around inside the truck stop at all. Too much gossip and complaining going on in the game room or TV lounge; exactly what I avoid. I'm, my own best company on the road.

 

Sorry people, bad advice.

OP, before you do anything, go find someone to talk to and interact like a human, not a computer. Don’t isolate yourself until you can deal with being alone and feeling better about being alone.

I had hired a driver who did the same thing however after a year with me she ended up being so mentally screwed up, she had to get off the road (abandoned the truck in the middle of nowhere and it took us a week to find it) and now is in some serious institutional treatment.

Her mistake was thinking this driving was actual therapy and she will get her life on track. It turns out without properly decompressing and building a support network of like people who had seriously abusive relationships to depend on to talk to, her world came crashing in on her without any notice. Her ex never caused her problems once she was out of the relationship but she was so paranoid that she had trouble cooping with any interactions with men, including me and my son and my manager. Even safety girl said she was struggling with the fallout after she has her first breakdown

so seek help, buikd up the network of support and then go … get … on the road … you will enjoy it better.

 

Interesting how I started to "thank" only those posts that supported my belief that you should take some time off before getting into a truck. Then more of the contrary opinions started to pop up and those responses gave me pause. It underscores the importance of knowing yourself and how you manage stress before making a decision to go down one path vs. the other. We can't make that determination for you. Just remember, getting behind the wheel of 80K is a huuuge responsibility.

Best of luck to you.

 

The road is a way of therapy for me. Burning down some miles out west in thr open country, theres alot of things that can cross the mind when u turn the radio off and just drive and stare out that window. But it can also turn u into a severe loaner like some of us have become.. Which is not a bad thing as far as im concerned

 

It can be a distraction to allow healing, or it can be the isolation that allows it to fester in your mind as you go down the highway in silence. Many things to consider. Most importantly you have to be honest with yourself and reflect on how you have dealt with prior troubles in life. THAT should be your compass on how to proceed.

 

Can't imagine anything therapeutic about a focus group blathering away at each other while some nerdy therapist tries to control the outcome.

 

Trucking is not a replacement therapy for people with emotional issues.
If you are emotionally unbalanced (we may all be to a certain degree), you should do something else for a living.

 

First off, this is a really good thread. OP, I feel for you and I wish you healing. Everyone has posted some really good stuff. I think that trucking takes mental and emotional toughness, as well as mental and emotional maturity. I'm not so sure how many drivers actually possess those qualities. I'd say most days are good out here, however, when things go bad, they go BAD. It's important to know how to maintain composure out here because if your mind drifts off, or you get into your feelings too much, that can result in you not focusing on the road and the results can be devastating. Trucking is an entire lifestyle change and mentally you gotta be ready. You'll miss holidays, parties, etc. There will be days folks back home won't be able to be bothered with ya. They won't really understand or like the lifestyle. That's when coping techniques will truly be tested. I personally think it's better to be clear headed out here on the road. One minor miscue, it's over. If your ex is completely out of your head, I'd say hit the road. If not, I'd say wait awhile because you'll be pushed to learn quickly out here. You'll need to have a clear head to learn a lot of info at a fast pace.