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Divorce-Child Visitation in Truck
Discussion in 'Questions To Truckers From The General Public' started by ilive4fri, Mar 1, 2010.
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I think the mother feels it's inappropriate because who knows when the last time the sheets have been changed or who slept in them. The whole idea of sleeping in a vehicle is typically something a mother would prefer her children not do. I know for truckers, they are probably used to that, but people who are not in the trucking industry normally do not sleep in a vehicle especially with their children. Most would consider that a last resort. The location where the truck is parked is a little sketchy behind a store, next to railroad tracks. Her children have busy schedules and she doesn't think they will get a good nights sleep in the truck. Due to being crowded and also possibly being scared. Honestly, I don't think if she thought about the no bathroom issue, but that's also a very good issue. She does let them stay out very late with him in the truck and he can pick them back up early in the morning, but feels its best they sleep in their own bed or a hotel.
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I would vote for the hotel idea, myself.
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I'm sure you didn't mean to phrase that in such an insulting manner to those of us who are in the trucking industry. I'm sure you realize that many of us in the trucking industry are moral, clean people who actually bathe, wash our sheets and don't have hookers bouncing on them. *smiles* We're actually quite nice for the most part.
However....I understand the misconception that some might have of our industry.
However....I spent 20 plus years working with children and teens who had a percentile of 93% who saw their fathers less than 4 days a year. These kids would have slept on glass to spend even a day with a father. So for my part I think the fact that this man spends this time with his daughters is good. I spent to many years seeing to many kids with parents who divorced and then dad either left or was pushed out of their lives.
Daughters who do not have the influence of fathers in their lives, marry younger, have a higher percentage of pre marriage births, higher rates of abortions, higher rates of school drop outs and a higher rate of drug abuse than daughters with fathers.
A night sleeping in a truck is not the same as sleeping in the backseat of a buick and it's far better than denying a child the time and attention of a father who actually cares.
I'm quite sure that this mother loves her daughters, wants the best for them and will see that the time with the father far outweighs a bunk in a truck. I'm also quite sure she'll see that giving up a tiny bit of control to the father will benefit herself in the long run and benefit her daughters greatly.
And I"m also quite sure that you are a loving, caring friend of this family and can see the value of the father to these girls.
I sincerely hope for joy for this family and will keep them in my prayers. Best wishes to you all. -
Granted the lack of a bathroom is inconvenient, but it's not like there isn't one nearby. If he wanted to take them camping in a pop-up camper there wouldn't be a bathroom either. There's two bunks and it's doubtful all three girls would be available the same weekend any way. Two girls could easily share one bunk, if that's a concern.
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A limo on steroids?
And with an air-horn.
And if he's bob-tail, he may be able to use one of those camp-site places for RV's. They usually have a swimming pool, little stores, and shower/restroom facilities.
The Big truck has doors.
They won't have to remain enclosed within.
That provided the required brick & mortar address needed for company records.
I had a trainee who, with her new husband fresh out of the Marines, -- also in training, planned on driving a Big truck as a team for 5-years to save money for a house. Once they were in a house, hubby planned on applying with the Los Angeles Police Academy.
I sorta convinced them to give up their apartment in San Diego which, at today's rates, would probably rent for over $1,000 to $1,500 month, --- and put that and utility bill savings in the bank.
They did that and they used a parent's address also as they visited both sets of parents in different states regularly during their Big truck truckin'.
Last I heard, they stuck to their plan and it worked.
"Honey" is a LAPO.
And "Sugar" went back to school and became a
special-ed teacher.
They started a family, ................................
but I digress.
I can't imagine the concern and/or worry having to leave a home unattended for weeks or months at a time while out on the road.
Oddly enough, I agree with you.
All depends.
I'm thinkin' compromise is in order here.
Stress would spoil the whole idea.
Know what I think?
I think the RV park thing would work and be fun.
Might even have a fishin' hole, and/or hiking trails.
Bicycles?
What do those RV places charge for an over-night site?
Anybody know?
Less than a motel?
Has she seen the inside of the Big truck?
Hail!
Take mom for a ride in the Big truck, too --- with company permission.
Show her where they plan to spend the night.
Behind a store?
I doubt that'd go over real well.
RV park *wink*
Maybe not all of them at the same time, but I think two could share one bunk for one night. If not, dad could pitch a tent for the night right beside the Big truck.
Although it's difficult to improve on perfection.
Might be a good time for an educational peek into the wonderful world of Big truck truckin' and see what daddy does when he's not there.
Mom seems to be afraid of something.
Perhaps it's the unknown she fears most?
She should be reassured.
Would mom & dad consider putting their differences behind them and all ( or some ) go "camping" together?
Not for them, for their daughters.
If they see mom & dad gettin' along, it might make thangs a tad more tolerable.
What do you think TNana?
I think that location would also be pretty boring and inconvenient at best.
There'd almost have to be activities planned to get away for the day. Even sitting in a Big truck truck stop would be more interesting, --- unless a lot of trains go by behind the store.
They survive slumber parties and sleep-overs.
I doubt the possible loss of a few hours sleep will stunt their growth. It's a learning experience, that should have the opposite effect and help them grow.
Not to mention, daddy does it all the time as a Big truck truck driver.
Don't they have
Take Your Daughter(s) To Work Day ?
Well, daddy's office rides on 10 wheels --- minimum, ....... usually 18, ........
Located somewhere betwixt shippin' and receivin' --- rollin' in transit.
It'd be cool to take a daughter for a 5 to 7 days ride.
A captive audience.
How scared could they be? (in a secure location)
I think mom might feel insecure, thinking she'll lose them in favor of their father. And no doubt, the girls will play one parent against the other. Problems arise when there's a marked difference of opinions betwixt parents. The bigger the difference, the easier it is for the kids to play them. The more two parents can agree, the less likely that tactic will succeed.
What's the use?
They both say the same thing.
BummnerS!
I've seen and inhaled the aroma of a few bunk areas I'd just as soon not have.
P-U-IE.
I mean, gag me with a spoon --- bad.
And I don't mean to imply anyone here keeps a bunk area like that.
But there are those who exist.
Yes we are.
And I bet that's why she's asking our opinion(s).
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Here's where it gets good, folks.
Read on,..........................
(I admit, I pre-read it.)
You're right TNana, ..........
You're odd.
And two odds makes us
even.
Question might be
Can two rights be a wrong? :smt017
Excellent post, TNana.
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I'm trying to understand why it would be inappropriate. Why is the world so sexually obsessed that they assume a man is going to screw his daughter? Does the truck not have a second bunk?
In a hotel they'd be in the same room too. It's not like its the same bed. It's too small of a bed to sleep with anyone you arent doing anyway.
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I think you're the first to suggest sexual overtones.
Up 'till now it's been concern for safety, comfort and having a good time, --- and both parents being OK with the arrangements.
But again, I don't get the impression there's any question of the father's integrity.
Does the race car come after a place to live?
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Dear Shocky.......I'm always deeply reassured when you think I've made a good point. It tells me I'm on the right track.
I believe passionately in the need for fathers involved in their kid's lives. I've seen far to many who aren't and the damage it's done. I've seen far to many mothers push fathers from their children's lives only to deeply regret it later.
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Yes, I was asking your opinion because we want to understand the issue from a trucker's point of view. And learn how other people are handling similar situations. Are we overreacting about safety? or is it a situation truckers wouldn't want their children in either? We just don't know, that's why I made the post.
I do have to say, that your responses have been wonderful. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to repond and being honest in your responses. The RV park is another excellent idea.
Thank you again for your time.
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