In a bit of a pickle, need advice...

You can't help him if he can't help himself. The fact that you're on here trying to get advice and ideas instead of him speaks volumes.

 

For some odd reason Katy Perry's "Circle the Drain" comes to mind.

 

why would he want a job? someone is supporting him and his drug habbits.

 

Just have him lie must office people dont work . They wont waste there time and check him out all they care about is whats for lunch and how fast they can get out of there

 

Wow,just read through the thread;OP hasn't been back here;hope she got the help she needed.
We went through a similar thing and joined a Narc-anon support group.It gave us the info we needed to administer some tough love;and now our addict is in recovery and fully employed.You can't do it alone;go to meetings they help you see the reality of what has to be done;the sooner you start the better.Don't wait for the addict to hit bottom,the bottom is wherever you choose it to be.

 

Tell him that love requires sacrifice..and that he must sacrifice the drugs, and anything else self-destructive to himself and you.He must be rid of them. . .tell him that you love him and will stand by a whole-hearted attempt to "right" himself. But if his plan is to destroy and not build up, that you cannot support. You are trying to "grow" a life together not "uproot" it . . .

 

ok so he does coke,pills been to jail and is a alcoholic. and your wondering how he can get back behind a 80,000 lb missile? get yourself a new man. phathetic

 

Well If he truely wanted to work he could get a job and from what you have said here he really doesent want one because he has you to fall back on now you need to let him go till he gets his act together.I happen to know someone just like this and it wont change untill you make a stand and force him to change.you say you love him then be the strong one and make him change.

 

How about I come over, and when he comes back home, we`ll both come to the door in our underwear, breathing hard. If he doesn`t leave, ill kick the #### out of him. He wont come back after Im done with him. Young lady find yourself another guy. You are beating your self to death over this. We have a great woman on this board, that had problems with someone, Read her post, and possibly PM her if she wouln`t mind, but Hook-up with INJUN, she is one smart lady.

 

One Word..................ENABLER!

Don't let him in a truck...............I've seen too much ugliness out here already!