Coping with being away from your significant other

Be prepared, it feels far away no matter how geographically close you run. The first time something happens at home and you can't just leave your job and go home and take care of it you will truly understand distance. Having a strong support group on the home front will mean a lot, but just realize that life goes by fast and time gone is just gone. Talk often, these says so much easier than in days past. If your plan is to " pay your dues" and then go local be sure to actually check out what really is available when your dues are paid. Never hurts to contact local companies and see what they require for experience, you might be surprised either way. Best of luck to you and your wife as you start in trucking, many people do just fine in this industry it just takes realizing what it is and what it is not.

 

Well said, Diamond!

 

If you "drift apart" then I would say it was not full on love.

I only did one year on the road and lucked into a local gig, due to my location.

I called marcie every night and I sent post cards twice a week to help share the experience.

Mikeeee

 

Good point about the post cards, Mike. I never sent post cards, but I sure did send a lot of digital pix via e-mail. Remember the old Sony digitals that used diskettes? You could get maybe 30-35 decent pix on a diskette. And they took forever to send and receive. . .

 

My wife spent more friggin money on postcards then we did fuel!

Eventually I talked her into a simple "jpg" pict with her phone and an email.

We also used to have a webcam which my wife used quite often to talk to her parents and friends. She could move it around while talking and show her family the different places we went. They now have that little tiny one that just clips on you and shows whatever you are looking at. It has its own website and program and looks pretty cool. I believe its called "looxie". Actually I just looked up the web page here it is:

http://www.looxcie.com/

Looks pretty cool!

Better than a postcard!

 

I will tell you from my experience as the daughter of a truck driver. When my dad started driving, I was 12 years old and I was very close to my dad. When he started driving a truck, I think I still didn't have a real good concept of time because I didn't realize how long he was going to be gone. But he made it a point to call me every single day and talk to me, and this was when you actually had to stop at truck stops to call home. When he was home, he spent quality time - not just sitting there watching tv. We played games almost the entire time he was home. We are still as close as we ever were and after a few years he finally got a local job.

If you are committed and make an effort to be involved in your family's life, you can make it work.

 

Funny how you say old like it was 40 years ago those are only what 10? 15 years old? It is so strange how fast technology changes.

 

Well Jessi, there is old, and then there is OLD!

 

BOY HOWDY!!!!

 

I worked nights when I married my wife so she was kind of used to me being gone at night. Sometimes she gets mad when I'm home TOO long, lol!