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Emotional is not my strong suit. We are cancer survivors ourselves. One of the things that vicious condition that is lethal when untreated sorts out your entire friends, family situation. GOOD friends will show up ready to do battle with you at the front. Everyone else will sit in the far rear sending maybe a get well card. Maybe.

Back to emotional. If Father is not expected to survive or it's a lethal sitaution, stay home for better and especially worse. Get it out of your system after his death. That way you are clear inside and ready to accept instruction without talkback.

A instructor taught me that anyone who has a accident in a big truck tends to have a root cause in the prior 72 hours of that person's life and sometimes death of a relative can ruin a trucker for a week or two, and trucker should not drive for his or her own good until the emotional storm of loss is over and gone. I do what I preach, and have taken time off when there has been a great loss before. My dispatch hates me but if they really did not need me like before then they can do without me for a while.

 

I agree. For me it was different when my Dad was dying of cancer. I knew in my own mind there was no way I was even going to entertain the notion of taking any load in any direction until it was over. My customers are good and I explained the situation to them, followed by "if you want it moved now, and me to do it, the price? $400,000." They chuckle and wish me the best and to let me know when I am back in the game. The majority of the grieving happened before he died. I was unable to picture a world without him in it. I knew i didn't have a choice, better put the big boy pants on now. When he died it was sort of just going through the stages that we knew we were going to go through from the terminal diagnosis.

Going back to work. He died on Nov 16 2015. The service and everything was done by the end of the following weekend, Nov 22. I picked up a load on the 27th to deliver on Monday the 30, it was a long one, some 2200 miles. No border crossings. No people to talk to. Not even a fuel attendant or a waitress. It was good for me. I needed to do that. I actually stayed on the road operating as the ultimate social recluse from then until late March. I am glad that I am fortunate enough to be more of a saver when it comes to money. I completely put the business on hold knowing I can rebuild it later if necessary. I like to work for stretches at a time and take my home time in stretches also. If this didn't qualify for taking an extended time off then I don't know what would. The time cost ended up being approximately 1/3 of 2015. I still met all my financial goals and have no regrets as to my decisions at the time.

 

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